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My dear friend took her 13 year old son into the ER monday night and was told he possibly has Lymphoma (a form of cancer). She saw her pediatrician today and called me crying, saying simply "It is not good" then hung up.
Please, whatever your beliefs, could you help me get a Prayer Chain going and send healing and love to James Miller and his family. He just turned 13 and is a bright and loving kid.
I know xda may not seem like the place to ask this, but I feel that it is the ideal place. So many of us from all around the world come here, and if we all just sent good, healing, loving thoughts James' way...maybe just maybe, the power of prayer and positive thinking will give him the strength and courage he will need for the upcoming dark days.
I am a cancer survivor and I can say it is damned scary, chemo sucks, and it is hard to stay positive. I know you don't know James, but think if it was your child or kid brother.
Thank you for your time reading this, and for your caring thoughts and prayers.
Jenn
I just saw your post and even though its been a couple of weeks I just wanted to say how sorry I am for your friends son James. My mother is going through her 3rd bout of fighting Ovarian cancer and is undergoing chemo now. Let your friend and James know that I will be praying for him and hoping that the new year will bring better news for him and them..........MAY GOD BLESS AND KEEP HIM SAFE.
Well, I don't believe in god, but I do hope he gets better.
Thank you both. We have got some promising news...while the test results are not yet official, as some tests take quite some time to culture, it is looking promising that he may not have Lymphoma. They are also testing for Leukemia. Hopefully both test results will show negative and give credence to the "promising" predictions by doctors.
Thanks again for keeping them in your thoughts and prayers.
Happy New Year.
hi mate, keep faith in god, he'll definitely keep him safe.
Adieu..
I am non beliver in god but... i do feel sory for him and if he was my kid id also be cryin my eyes out
i do hope he gets 100% better!!
God know's what he's doing. But that's not going to keep me from praying, and i hope, i really do, that James will be safe.
Yusuf
i will say a prayer for james. may the Lord bless you.
sorry just read this one
may God be with his healing hands perform a miracle for this child... hope he is alright now
well i can write all the most positive things in the world or the most negative things but it really wont make too much difference ,this looks bad.The little fella has no choice but to believe in himself to make it thru no matter what.
Will say a prayer for James and his family! Thanks for letting us know.
Well after months of testing, the doctors have ruled out Lymphoma...however, James does have over-active lymph nodes which if not kept in check, may one day turn into Lymphoma. Thank you for your prayers and well wishes, I have passed them on to his family...and please keep them coming. The goal now is to keep him well, and keep his body well regulated so that we don't have another scare like this one.
Hi,
Jenn I read you and I thing he will rehabilitate very soon. My friend tell me about this form. He is a madical sudent.
I shall concern with him for you. GOD MAY BLESS HIM AND HIS FAMILY.
I prayer for James, god will help him.............
Last weekend, while i was at a batchelors party my roomate found it funny to use my user name to create posts. This ended up in me being banned for 7 days and the vulgarity used was very disrespectful to me and this community. He is/was pissed of at me because he hasnt chippd in on rent in about 2 1/2 months so i told him last friday he needed to move. So as i was at the party he used my user name (because cookies enabled im always logged in) and created a new user name using a diffrent broswer. I hope you members can accept my apologie, as im deeply sorry. This was extremely embarrasing to me. And now i have kicked this mother out of my home. again i am deeply sorry for the actions last weekend, and once again i hope you all can forgive the situation. And for reference here is a link to the post i was talking about (CLICK AT YOUR OWN RISK) http://forum.xda-developers.com/showthread.php?t=389943
And again im so so sorry.
don't sweat it man. we all run into people like that who are supposedly our friend's, but reality speak they are nothing more than a bunch of losers.
glad to see u got ur act reinstated.
That was not a good enough punishment. I think you should have to give me your Kasier/tilt/whatever, and that would be a suitable punishment.
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don't sweat it man. we all run into people like that who are supposedly our friend's, but reality speak they are nothing more than a bunch of losers.
glad to see u got ur act reinstated.
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i concurr. . pick and choose them wisely.. hopefully this will be an eye opener!
As I previously stated in those threads, I didn't think that was you anyway. Just seemed really out of character to me. Almost child like I thought. No hard feelings here as I didn't think it was you anyway. I couldn't explain the IP similiarities but you just did so in my opinion its the past and there is no need to dwell in the past.
Welcome back.
I really appreciate the support, bad thing is this guy has been a really good friend since college. And ever since he moved in with me its been a nightmare. Well now he had moved in with his parents. I am also filing suit in small claim's to get back rent and utilites that he never paid.
So no tilt for me?
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I really appreciate the support, bad thing is this guy has been a really good friend since college. And ever since he moved in with me its been a nightmare. Well now he had moved in with his parents. I am also filing suit in small claim's to get back rent and utilites that he never paid.
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Sometimes its just better to cut your losses and move on.
I too thought it was a little strange to see Banned under your name. I had never seen any wild posts on your part that would have caused it...
Now take that SOB to People's Court so we can all watch him look like a jackass in front of Judge Marilyn Milian.
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That was not a good enough punishment. I think you should have to give me your Kasier/tilt/whatever, and that would be a suitable punishment.
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Yea sure, I work for att so i can hook you up with a tilt (A dummy display)!! ha ha ha ha
Dude!! I was in the same exact situation. I kicked this one guy out, not because of rent, but because of disrespect. He would bring his gf at night and you know what when I was trying to get sleep. I gave the guy consideration to have the place to himself for a few hours. What I did was told him to watch a movie with him and his girlfriend as well as me adn my girlfriend. The movie was called You Me and Dupree (if I got it right) He got the point I was trying to make and at the end of the movie we got in an argument. I won. Yay!
Is it too soon to laugh at this? (Or am I just a bit twisted?).
Still, sorry to here that happen to you mate. Seen it happen on a Wiki I go on and it really pi$$es people off.
Once a vandal created a login of an admin with an i instead of an l in the username, everyone thought the admin had gone nuts. Very funny.
Dave
KD8DNS said:
Yea sure, I work for att so i can hook you up with a tilt (A dummy display)!! ha ha ha ha
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Hmm something to drop infront of a crowed to make them think I broke my preciouseses.. Sounds good to me.
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Hmm something to drop infront of a crowed to make them think I broke my preciouseses.. Sounds good to me.
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p.m. your address to me and ill se what i can do
It all clicks into place now. Yeah I thought the same as P1Tater. You never really attacked the community, but the newbs. Then that day, you got more and more wacky and disrepectful. I thought you had gone off your meds.
BTW, Never become roomates with your buddies, they are always more of a slacker than you expect.
Anyhow, welcome back man.
JimmyMcGee said:
It all clicks into place now. Yeah I thought the same as P1Tater. You never really attacked the community, but the newbs. Then that day, you got more and more wacky and disrepectful. I thought you had gone off your meds.
BTW, Never become roomates with your buddies, they are always more of a slacker than you expect.
Anyhow, welcome back man.
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noo, i still taken my crazy pills, i think anyway. (listen do you hear that) what did you say. huh, your freakin me out. Ohhh what was i talking about
Decent
I think its decent of you to respond the way you did to the community. Given what life throws at us from time to time, it makes things like rubbish video drivers on the Kaiser rather a petty complaint (gritted teeth - gimme decent drivers HTC damn it!).
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I think its decent of you to respond the way you did to the community. Given what life throws at us from time to time, it makes things like rubbish video drivers on the Kaiser rather a petty complaint (gritted teeth - gimme decent drivers HTC damn it!).
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Calm down now Buudy. Take it from me, you are going to get ulcers if you worry about the Video Driver issue. My phone works great. Video could be better but, I live stress free not worrying about it.
Thank you
Just wanted to say thanks to all that realized that the disrespectful posts were not me but a immature arse hole x-roommate. (And today is the day i sue his ass in court) i have printed off the posts he created to use in court to justify his character. Anyway thanks much FRIENDS.
Guys. Pray for me. I'm small and slow (kinda) and PROBABLY won't make the team. I say probably because they don't make cuts. Anywho. Like I said, pray for me.
So just incase you mother frickers didn't know, it's me. G1BRICKED/OG. Me spinks he's leaving too. Lets be honest man. It's high school. If you want to know more, ohh never mind it got deleted. But anyway, I've spent my life on the internet, 'bout time I move on. I have more to focus on. Friends. Family. Football. HIGH SCHOOL. Homework. Projects. Getting a girlfriend (Me? Get a girl? Yeah right!) Etc... And BTW, I'm only doing this because I'm mad at you guys for being meanie pantses. I mean, lesbihonsts,... you know what I mean. So I guess this is goodbye... again. And if you're going to rant about how lame this Thread is, just PM me so I can delete it. THANKS!
*BTW, MATH LESSON XP!
Purple Drama Llama = 100% Greatness of XDA.
He split it between me an M_T_M when he left.
G1BRICKED/OG = 50% M_T_M = 50%
Now that I'm leaving, congratz M_T_M
M_T_M = 100% Greatness of XDA Off-Topic.
BOW FOOS BOW! I PITTY THA FOO WHO DON'T BOW!
Bye </3
...it was U all time...no waaayyy.
Honestly, I wish all the best little buddy. Be confident of yourself and give the best of you so you have no regrets.
Remember XDA will be always here (and probably us too )
Good Luck little buddy,
Lol. I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU DIDN'T KNOOOOWWW!!!
Thanks man. My cousin said the same thing and I guess it's true.
Lmaoo. I'll probably check in once in a while and all soo yeah. Lol. I'll finish it tonight.
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Lol. I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU DIDN'T KNOOOOWWW!!!
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Don't, I was sarcastic.......I knew it was you long time ago
Regarding your footbal trial, let us know how it went. You should post it on youtube just like your singing (remember?).
Good luck
Oh God. PLEASE don't remind me.
Good Luck G1/OG/Android <3er/I get confused now! (I had a funny feeling it was you )
I'm sure you'll do fine, and good luck with the football, and life in general.
I don't know what happened etc with you quitting in the first place but still, it has been fun reading your posts - some made me laugh.
Take care
kind of had a hunch it was you, or some other pubescent kid....
how about you don't leave this time. It's obvious that you are hooked to this place. Keep the account and check it from time to time. Then when you are older you can come back and see how frustrating you could be.
Good luck with football. Even if you are small, it is fun to run aroundand hit people. I was a runt back in the day and even I got to joe theisman someone:
m.youtube.com/watch?gl=US&client=mv-google&xl=xl_blazer&hl=en&xl=xl_blazer&v=PQ1iVRRu6w0
Between G1 and llama, there might be a movie plot there somewhere.
Later G1, if it is true.
obtw: Clear wire bill reveals nothing.
good day.
Lmaoo. Pads and all. I got tackled today by my friend just to see how it'd hurt. I sat there LAUGHING! It was halarious. Before that, one of my friends tried to tackle me... I'm standing there like "Do people push you when they try to hug you." He was trying to tackle me so I let him get it hahaa. But yeah. I'll try lol. It's worth the shot.
And @chopper the dog - If he told you that, it's private information so you should expect a call soon... lol jk
And thanks for the obtw.
One of our senior members, DaddieDiesel is in the hospital and has sustained some very serious injuries as of last night. I received a PM from his sister, as many of you may have, that he and his daughter were on a Daddy Daughter Valentine's Day date. They were walking across the road and were hit by a car. He shielded his little girl, and she isn't hurt too bad. When he took the blow for her, he took it hard. Many broken bones, a punctured lung, and a serious blow to the head when he hit the pavement. His condition is unknown, and he is currently unconscious in the ICU.
I don't know how many of you know him, but he's my friend. He has been there for me through all of my recent sadness... miscarriage and breakup of my long term relationship... calling and texting everyday just to make me laugh so that I don't fall apart. And even though I havent known him long... I feel like I've known him forever. He's my ChiTown, and I'm his ChuckTown. He's my friend, and I'm asking that you all please keep him, his little girl, and his entire family in your thoughts. Until he wakes up... I don't know what I'm gonna do without his daily calls, texts, and retarted ass picture mails he always sends just to make me smile. I'm not normally big on prayer... but I am now. For him.
UPDATE: FURTHER AND MORE DETAILED INFO FROM FAMILY ON DADDYDIESEL'S CONDITION
Dan sustained dislocations to his right hip and shoulder. 4broken ribs. Of which punctured his lung. Shattered his knee cap. Swelling in his brain from his head hitting so hard that it busted it open. His hand is badly swollen because he held his daughters head from also hitting the concrete. But after this mornings surgery we had a better outlook. He awoke for a bit confused at first because he didnt know where he was, but after we calmed him he immiediatly asked for his daughter.
Thank you for your kind words and let everyone know that he is doing better but not out of the woods yet. Still has a ton of swelling and it is still a concern.
Thank you for the prayers and either my sister or I will let you know more information as we can.
UPDATE 2.16.11:
Dan has been awake for longer periods. He still is unable to speak due to his breathing tube. When he does wake
he continues to be very confused and angry.It takes him a bit but he does realize where he is and seems to understand.
The first thing he does do is ask about his daughter by pointing to his tattoo of her. Which the doctors say is a good sign.
When we(dan's other sister and I)left this afternoon the doctors were hoping to remove his breathing tube later today.
The lingering concern is still the swelling but if you know my brother not much is gonna keep him down.
We have had great support from a couple of his rugby friends,his biker friends, and co-workers even to the fact of
taking time off work and picking my sister from the airport when she arrived.
For many years we all looked down on Dan for the things he did but we never realized how much he gave up of himself
for us. To this day all he says he did what he had to.Thank god our brother was so well organized as we were able to
get his passwords to his email and his account on the wonderful community you both belong to,and contact you and
his other friends.
It seems that you and Dan have a very special relationship and my sister and i decided to let you know a bit
about Dan. We snuck in Dan's laptop in and read to him his messages and the responses to the posting you started and
he was very moved. He also tapped your picture and put his hand to his lips. Thank you again and let everyone know that
have everyone who has prayed for our brother in our prayers as well.A Special thank you to the gentleman know as
Slayer69 as his messages were very kind.And too a very special thanks thank you for being such a beautiful person
and your wonderful support. We will let you know more as we know. thank you.
UPDATE 2.17.11:Dan had his breathing tube removed. He cant speak all that well and ended up
losing a molar.He has to try and write alot of what he wants to say.
But still a great sign. Tomorrow the plan on moving
him hopefully out of ICU. Also plan on getting him some movement
via therapy for his knee so it doesnt atrophy. We got his old
phone and will try to sneek it into him as he wants to get his messages,and make a few calls.
Its Dan being himself and nothing is gonna slow that guy down. He thinks he will be
out in time for his birthday next week. You know my brother
not much is gonna slow him down, apperantly not even getting hit by a car.
We all have our fingers crossed and know that all the prayers from everyone
on the website you and Dan belong to have helped. Thank you again from our
entire family. Dan sends his love to you especially.
UPDATE 2.18.11: Guess who just got a very personal update from the man himself? Me!! That's whassup. DaddieDiesel just called a few minutes ago and talked as long as he could before the meds started kicking in. He sounds like he got hit by a car! See... we can laugh about it now... lol. Got to, right? He is going to be fine, but in alot of pain as you can imagine. It was so good to hear his voice. When I saw "ChiTown" pop up on my caller ID... I almost cried. But enough about me... He says to tell ALL of you, "Thank you for all of your thoughts and support. I'm no hero, I'm just a Daddy. I do what I gotta do."
NOTE: Aight we gotta switch it up... flip the script right here since everything looks good for him now. Everyone here knows Dan's username here on XDA is DaddieDiesel. Fabulous. Call him what you will... DaddieDiesel, Dan, Double D... it's all good (except maybe that last one, he probably won't be feeling that one... lol) But I started this thread, and if you've read through all the updates... you've heard me call him ChiTown. So from here on out, all updates from ME specifically will be addressing him as such. Roll with it.
UPDATE 2.20.11:So where's whats new with this bad ass HERO named ChiTown. Most recent news from his equally bad ass sisters: His days are long, his nights are longer. Today will be his third day going through very, very painful physical therapy. He is pissy, they say... alot of swearing! But trust me... that's nothing new with ChiTown... lmao. The man has a mouth ALOST as dirty as mine. Tomorrow will be the one week mark since the accident. He hates hospitals more than most people who hate hospitals. His doctor continues to say its nothing short of a miracle that his head didn't split completely open when he hit the pavement. Yesterday's MRI results were looking good, which is awesome. And the doctors are happy with the way everything continues to be improving so rapidly. Now if he'd just get over this big ass knot on his head and grow some hair back where it had to be shaved to put him back together... then maybe he'd let this ChuckTown girl jack a plane and come say whassup...
Never heard of him, but i'll make sure to keep him in my prayers
Sorry to hear that...I wish him a speedy recovery....
He'll be in my prayer list. If you can talk to him, ask him to stay strong.
I hope everything works out for them. I am currently undergoing something myself so I understand how it feels. I hope the best for him and his family.
-There is a 35% chance that right now I'm on the toilet-
Although I don't know him I wish him the best in his recovery
I'm new here and so of course I don't know him, but I'll most definitely pray for him.
The selfless act of being brave even knowing the danger is my ultimate definition of courage, and I hope everyone else here will join me in agreement on that point.
The world is desperately in need of more brave and courageous heroes like Dan.
I'll pray for him.
I'll pray for him to recover and gain all strength.
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hearing news like this is always upsetting and tough.
I will keep him in my thoughts and prayers.
Even though I don't know him I wish him the best of recovery. He gives me hope.
selflessness defines self.
with no personal connection i still offer him and his family the highest respect and deepest compassion. thanks op.
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One of our senior members, DaddieDiesel is in the hospital and has sustained some very serious injuries as of last night. I received a PM from his sister, as many of you may have, that he and his daughter were on a Daddy Daughter Valentine's Day date. They were walking across the road and were hit by a car. He shielded his little girl, and she isn't hurt too bad. When he took the blow for her, he took it hard. Many broken bones, a punctured lung, and a serious blow to the head when he hit the pavement. His condition is unknown, and he is currently unconscious in the ICU.
I don't know how many of you know him, but he's my friend. He has been there for me through all of my recent sadness... miscarriage and breakup of my long term relationship... calling and texting everyday just to make me laugh so that I don't fall apart. And even though I havent known him long... I feel like I've known him forever. He's my ChiTown, and I'm his ChuckTown. He's my friend, and I'm asking that you all please keep him, his little girl, and his entire family in your thoughts. Until he wakes up... I don't know what I'm gonna do without his daily calls, texts, and retarted ass picture mails he always sends just to make me smile. I'm not normally big on prayer... but I am now. For him.
UPDATE: FURTHER AND MORE DETAILED INFO FROM FAMILY ON DADDYDIESEL'S CONDITION
Dan sustained dislocations to his right hip and shoulder. 4broken ribs. Of which punctured his lung. Shattered his knee cap. Swelling in his brain from his head hitting so hard that it busted it open. His hand is badly swollen because he held his daughters head from also hitting the concrete. But after this mornings surgery we had a better outlook. He awoke for a bit confused at first because he didnt know where he was, but after we calmed him he immiediatly asked for his daughter.
Thank you for your kind words and let everyone know that he is doing better but not out of the woods yet. Still has a ton of swelling and it is still a concern.
Thank you for the prayers and either my sister or I will let you know more information as we can.
UPDATE 2.16.11:
Dan has been awake for longer periods. He still is unable to speak due to his breathing tube. When he does wake
he continues to be very confused and angry.It takes him a bit but he does realize where he is and seems to understand.
The first thing he does do is ask about his daughter by pointing to his tattoo of her. Which the doctors say is a good sign.
When we(dan's other sister and I)left this afternoon the doctors were hoping to remove his breathing tube later today.
The lingering concern is still the swelling but if you know my brother not much is gonna keep him down.
We have had great support from a couple of his rugby friends,his biker friends, and co-workers even to the fact of
taking time off work and picking my sister from the airport when she arrived.
For many years we all looked down on Dan for the things he did but we never realized how much he gave up of himself
for us. To this day all he says he did what he had to.Thank god our brother was so well organized as we were able to
get his passwords to his email and his account on the wonderful community you both belong to,and contact you and
his other friends.
It seems that you and Dan have a very special relationship and my sister and i decided to let you know a bit
about Dan. We snuck in Dan's laptop in and read to him his messages and the responses to the posting you started and
he was very moved. He also tapped your picture and put his hand to his lips. Thank you again and let everyone know that
have everyone who has prayed for our brother in our prayers as well.A Special thank you to the gentleman know as
Slayer69 as his messages were very kind.And too a very special thanks thank you for being such a beautiful person
and your wonderful support. We will let you know more as we know. thank you.
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Well, it does seem like he didn't suffer any brain damage from the latest update. I'm sure that he'll make a full recovery!
Yay! What a miracle he survived!
Wow, so today I found out that my ex-girlfriend now, been messaging her ex-boyfriend telling him he misses her and loves her and wants to be with him behind my back. Let me remind you that she is pregnant with my kid. I read her google chat log and found out all different kind of messages. I was completely shocked and completely *****ed at her. I told her stup*d as* to pack up her sh!t and get the f*ck out of my house. To think I was going to marry her as*.
Wow that's harsh man. Sorry to hear it. If there was no kid involved I'd say you're lucky to have found out, but that's just wrong on the little one. What a role model Mummy's gonna be
Sorry to hear that also, I think you need to care about your child now. Try not to confront her or him, just don't give a crap for the well being of your child (that needs to be your primary focus from now on).
Cheers man and good luck.
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Wow that's harsh man. Sorry to hear it. If there was no kid involved I'd say you're lucky to have found out, but that's just wrong on the little one. What a role model Mummy's gonna be
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Yeah, I really ended up with something huh.. Nice way to start off the New Years.. F*ck that b!tch!
UPDATE: She's calling me telling me sorry and how she doesnt want me to leave.. What a dumb b!tch. Seriously. I told her to get the f*ck out of my life and get her sh!t out. Tired of her bullsh!t.
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Sorry to hear that also, I think you need to care about your child now. Try not to confront her or him, just don't give a crap for the well being of your child (that needs to be your primary focus from now on).
Cheers man and good luck.
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Wow that's harsh man. Sorry to hear it. If there was no kid involved I'd say you're lucky to have found out, but that's just wrong on the little one. What a role model Mummy's gonna be
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Thank you both for hearing me out. Really appreciate the comments. Its good to talk to someone about something awful like this.
Make sure you don't sign that birth certificate until you get DNA confirmation that it's your baby.
I have a friend that got trapped and is paying child support on a child that's not his because he signed (acknowledged) that the child was his.
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Yeah, I really ended up with something huh.. Nice way to start off the New Years.. F*ck that b!tch!
UPDATE: She's calling me telling me sorry and how she doesnt want me to leave.. What a dumb b!tch. Seriously. I told her to get the f*ck out of my life and get her sh!t out. Tired of her bullsh!t.
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That's going to be a hard line to take if she's pregnant with your child... sounds like she might be a part of your life for good now, one way or the other. :/
Still, sorry to hear it bro.
Yeah, it's a tough situation all round. As said above, you are going to be involved in her life now for many, many years, so as Mr Clown said you need to forget your anger towards them because the little one is the most important thing.
Obviously, I agree with Android300ZX that a DNA test is a wise precaution.
Just one pertinent question: Are you sure it's your kid?
One thing to say: She's only sorry because she got caught. Ditch the b*tch bro, plenty of other chicks out there.
also MAKE SURE U RECORD everything when it come time to back what u need ex tv,couch,phone,printer,computer http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qkt7Dx_uK5Y SHE DA CHEATING HO*
Its cheaper to keep her. Eff child support. My dad had to go through it 7, yes that's right, SEVEN times.
-My life is a shooting range, people never change-
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Its cheaper to keep her. Eff child support. My dad had to go through it 7, yes that's right, SEVEN times.
-My life is a shooting range, people never change-
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This statement really pisses me off. One of my employees always says it all the time. It is not about what option is less expensive...it is about what makes you both happy.
You both need to have a heart to heart and decide if you want to make things work or if it is best to separate ways. Take it from someone who was married for 6 years with someone who didnt seem like he wanted to be there...in the end, I was tired of being in love with a man that didn't seem to feel the same about me and we were divorced. Now I am a single mom and things are much better off.
Examine your relationship now before you get to involved. Your baby will be best with 2 parents who love each other, rather then 2 parents who only stay together for the kid.
I agree you should catalog everything that you had pre-relationship with her. It's not marriage but things can go south very fast. I also agree with who ever posted about not signing the birth certificate until you know 110% sure that the baby is yours. I had a girlfriend who was messing around with other guys behind my back when she got pregnant (found that out after we went through everything). Good luck bro
Damn... Sorry to hear that bro
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Hey man, altough you think this is the end of the world, it isn´t. Let your friends and family comfort you, that life goes on.
That will be a prolonged pain. Find time to spend totally away from her to heal.
I'm gonna go back on what I previously said, after thinking about it some more. We've all made mistakes - I've made tons of them! If you care enough about the girl to be planning a family and marriage with her then maybe it's worth at least seeing what happens.
It's easy for someone not in the situation to knee-jerk but what do we know about how you two really feel about each other? Nothing.
Just use this place to vent and see our responses, then ignore them all completely and do what's best for you, your misses and the little one. Just be honest and you can't go wrong.
I usually don't repeat myself but:
-Make sure you get a DNA test!
-A lot of females use that (I'm pregnant) against a guy to keep him. It may very well be true but be careful.
-Record everything! Make a backup on Gmail. I would use Google Voice and have Google Voice be your primary voicemail. If she calls you and leaves a voicemail it will get saved to Google Voice where you can download it to your desktop and keep it on file.
-Take most if not all the things she says to you with a grain of salt.
-Make sure you don't end up looking like the deadbeat that just picked up and left. They tend to make themselves look like the victim to their friends and family.
-If the child is yours take care of your business and appreciate them because they are pure.
-If you find it in your heart to forgive her make sure you really forgive her and not bring it up when you get into the occasional argument.
I have experience in this. My GF cheated on me twice. The first time she would go out with her "girls" (multiple instances of partying with her "girls" and coming back late in the AM) and I found out she was going out with a guy that I knew who was in our circle of friends. She would cut school and hang out with this guy all the while I was paying for her education. She doesn't work or hasn't in the 4 years we've been together because I took care of everything as a man. The second time I caught her was on her birthday when I came home early (unannounced) from work to surprise her and caught her leaving the neighbors house and overheard her on the phone discussing the events with her BFF. I couldn't forgive her because the thought of me seeing this guy's car every day and the fact that I know he's be laughing at me from behind the confines of his home taking me for a sucker. The only reason I haven't pummeled his face in is because of my daughter.
I have a kid with her and I still live with her but we are only together for the sake of my daughter. She graduates this month from school and will get a job in her field so we will sit down and discuss our arrangements and separation.
Just make sure you cover all your bases man.
*** Again, Do the DNA test!! Don't fall for that guilt trip she may put on your about you denying your child and not trusting her ***
They will use that against you and make you succumb to signing the certificate.
Hang in there man, it's tough. I think that you best pursue what's going to be the best for your son or daughter.
There is a test they can do for paternity during gestation, it determines gender among other things of the child, mostly done for at risk older mothers.
If in the end you find you are a father, ill tell you first hand (literally holding my Lil guy) its a feeling like no other. You've got to do what's best for your own, which will likely be to split. Your gf likely grew up on a household with a limited example of a father figure, and you certainly don't want your own kid to turn into the same type of person as her.
Yeah, DNA test seems good suggestion. Make sure wich base it came from. Also maybe ask for a ETA.
Oké, now go to Dr Phill or Jerry Springer. Last time i checked it was a technical forum.
Cheers