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So we had another fight about me spending too much time playing with and talking about android and phones. As long as cellphones don't come up in conversation we were the happiest couple in the world. But I finally broke up with her because I couldn't even think about android without her getting mad at me. And I figured I would just find a girl that shared my interest. But I just realized that there are ZERO females(at least in the state of alabama) that even know what android is. Should I quit looking now? Does anyone have any advice to find them(if they exist that is)?
I lol'ed so hard.
if this isnt a troll , ur a noob for not being able to control urself not to talk about ur fone
sounded like my wife ...picking a fight because too much time on xda and phones.... Well, you can move from your state
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if this isnt a troll , ur a noob for not being able to control urself not to talk about ur fone
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Sorry you think I'm a noob, but I can control myself enough to not talk about it, but WHY should I? I'm going to look for a girl with common interest, and if I don't find anyone I will suppress my techie talk. But until I know that she doesn't exist, why would I change the kind of woman I would like to date?
So next time your off just supermanning hoes think about what a relationship should be about.
This is what I get for asking for girl advice on xda
LMAOO! If your serious, I really think you messed up BIG time! Call her now, apologize, and get off of XDA.
sorry to hear it bro. my wife also gets pissy when im on modding/hacking forums too much, but she'll get used to it eventually
I somewhat agree with Original Android.... if you usually get along, apologize and try to consider some of her interests. some people just dont get our devotion(addiction) to such things
as far as quitting XDA..... bad idea. maybe just set a specific time for this great site.
its all about compromise homey..... i hate you for making me think serious!! j/k
Had a fight here too for this very same reason...
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sounded like my wife ...picking a fight because too much time on xda and phones.... Well, you can move from your state
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orb3000 said:
Had a fight here too for this very same reason...
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Well my friend, it's time to negotiate . I did this with my wife, I agreed with her that I will spend some hours a week to be on the web and xda of course (while she's around). So both of us are happy since I comply with the terms when she's around ....but she's not always around you know.
Yes, time is not equal my girl says...
Anyway we should re negotiate a new way if possible
She's the one, I'm pretty sure of it
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LMAOO! If your serious, I really think you messed up BIG time! Call her now, apologize, and get off of XDA.
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Ok first off, hope you are LOVING highschool and football still. And yes I messed up big time, she's truely a wonderful person. But I didn't have to call her, she called me and we came to a compromise. She said if I would buy her that "nexus thingy" and actually "teach" her what I was talking about, she thinks she would really enjoy learning about it. And in my mind it wasn't a compromise, I got exactly what I wanted..... oh wait I just spent $500 on an N1
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Ok first off, hope you are LOVING highschool and football still. And yes I messed up big time, she's truely a wonderful person. But I didn't have to call her, she called me and we came to a compromise. She said if I would buy her that "nexus thingy" and actually "teach" her what I was talking about, she thinks she would really enjoy learning about it. And in my mind it wasn't a compromise, I got exactly what I wanted..... oh wait I just spent $500 on an N1
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I'm going to be frank. Return that N1. The relationship is now headed in the wrong direction for the wrong reasons.
In your future relationships, if you're with your girl, be with your girl. Learn to compromise. Your partner's reaction to the particular behavior (i.e., dealing/talking Android) is ultimately just a natural reaction towards the frequency in which you exhibited it (i.e., excessively). Imagine if your partner asked you to accompany them to go shopping every day of the week for at least 3 hours each day. While you guys are shopping, she'll talk to you about every brand, and fashion, etc. Should she leave you because you aren't interested in her interests?
Your Android fetish is a hobby. There are more important things in life that you should be paying attention to. I'm not saying this girl is -the- one you'll be with for the rest of your life, but things like growing and improving social skills should take greater precedence than learning and keeping what's up with the latest and greatest on Cyanogen mods.
Take my advice for what it's worth to you. Just remember, at the end of the day, it's just a phone.
Im not returning the N1. I shouldn't have ever posted this thread. I know exactly what important things are in my life(what exactly did you even mean by that??). I'm going to stop this now because people don't and can't know every detail about our relationship and it is now being misinterpreted.
And it's not about roms or tweaks it's about the future of technology, which I think everyone can agree is rather important
well this is funny... you are trying to find a girlfriend on XDA ?
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well this is funny... you are trying to find a girlfriend on XDA ?
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LOL, I lol'd big time.
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LOL, I lol'd big time.
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So did I mate ! The OP should go to some dating fora or something why on XDA ! LOL !
fk, i had something like this too once, since then i didnt talk about phones that much anymore xD..
well but she knows now that this is like a hobby for me, and its not that bad when i talk about it from time to time...
hell we are techjunkies, but even we need to hold back with our tech **** when talking to a girl xD
(i knew that before, but, for example, i couldnt live with it, if my gf would buy an iphone.................XD)
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Im not returning the N1. I shouldn't have ever posted this thread. I know exactly what important things are in my life(what exactly did you even mean by that??). I'm going to stop this now because people don't and can't know every detail about our relationship and it is now being misinterpreted.
And it's not about roms or tweaks it's about the future of technology, which I think everyone can agree is rather important
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You telling me that it's not about ROM or tweaks and that it is actually about the future of technology is really a bad attempt at justifying your hobby. This is even illustrated by the following clause when you feel the need to garner further support of your hobby by amassing the opinions of your fellow XDA members.
But nevermind that, good luck with the relationship. I do hope that things work out in the end.
daamn!!!
I usually dont talk about phones when Im with my girl... hell I've even visited xda less, since Im in a normal relations (not those in which I have to be responsible for everyf**king thing.. - had one of those about a year and a half ago)
anyways - just find something to talk about that is interesting for both of you + keeps your mind off the phones...
or if you can't you can get yourself off the xda, or you can always ask someone to ban you.. just kidding
so basically she had the bravery to say : $500 fone or no sammiches
and ur happy about it
Hey guys I recently forgot to tell you guys that two girls wanted me to ask them out and I lied and told then I was but I never did.
Anyways this girl is out of nowhere beginning to be attractive and really pretty so I told her that I was gonna ask her out!
I think she still likes me so yea oh and did I mention shes white!
Interracial!
Lmao... Sorry, I'm.....I'm gonna get back to this tomorrow... I'm going to sleep haha
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lol , just read the other thread again ... theres alot of knowledge in there , more than enuff
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lol , just read the other thread again ... theres alot of knowledge in there , more than enuff
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Well, since I'm Chinese, and Chinese medicine likes to hit at the root cause...
Alan, the problem you are facing while 15... well... most of the people here already faced it. At that age, love is a game, and your hormones are affecting you too much for you to be able to react properly.
The Chinese have a saying, "There is no happiness if love is forced" (don't you dare snark me here), so you can't make her like you. If she does, then all is well. If she doesn't... that's too bad for her.
It is vital for you to realize that there are plenty more fishes in the sea. The fields are full of flowers.
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When I was young, I saw a flower. She was the most beautiful flower to me. I stared at this one flower until I failed to notice other flowers in the garden. But this flower was taken by someone else.
Many years later, I came to see this garden again to find this flower. She became like a tree trunk, and the garden became a forest.
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I guess, from my friend's anecdote, it is time to wake up and smell the forest.
Love... well... it is a matter of hit and miss. Fate will always have a hand in your (attempt to find) happiness. Maybe the fate is there, but the time is not right.
Getting a girl to like you will depend on the time frame that you are looking for. ONS will have a vast difference with someone you want to marry. I haven't been 15 for a long time, but back when I was 15, I was stupid, crazy and too courageous for my own good.
I chose to be single, and was glad to remain single for a long time. I flirted with every single pretty girl, and I sowed confusion by throwing gifts at girls whenever I can get away with it. It made me a lot of enemies in the school (That girl is mine, punk! Bla, bla, bla) but it was fun (for me). It got me into a lot of fights too (gangster's chick story another time).
But what was important was that I acted like a [email protected]@rd to the one girl I really liked. We argued a lot and she alluded that she is not ready to be in a relationship with anyone at that age. So I made fun of her, teased her about every single thing, had her chase me for what was the entire school block, etc. Good times...
Anyway, what happened after that was kinda creepy. I found out that she had a crush on me from day one, but didn't dare to admit it (this is Malaysia, after all, what with conservative parents, etc.). She was, ultimately, turned off because I would flirt too much. In the end, she hooked up with another guy (I was kinda proud that I set it up) and everything was history. Or at least geography because I had to move to another state.
So, what I'm trying to say is, just to be yourself and be honest. If she rejects your true and honest qualities, chances are she doesn't really like you. Even if she does like you, not having the chemistry to spark off the romance will simply cause another heartache.
Since you are still young, I really do suggest that you treat it as a game, in that you'll win some, and you'll very likely lose some.
Get her name tattooed across your forehead....
Chicks dig that........
sakai4eva said:
Well, since I'm Chinese, and Chinese medicine likes to hit at the root cause...
Alan, the problem you are facing while 15... well... most of the people here already faced it. At that age, love is a game, and your hormones are affecting you too much for you to be able to react properly.
The Chinese have a saying, "There is no happiness if love is forced" (don't you dare snark me here), so you can't make her like you. If she does, then all is well. If she doesn't... that's too bad for her.
It is vital for you to realize that there are plenty more fishes in the sea. The fields are full of flowers.
I guess, from my friend's anecdote, it is time to wake up and smell the forest.
Love... well... it is a matter of hit and miss. Fate will always have a hand in your (attempt to find) happiness. Maybe the fate is there, but the time is not right.
Getting a girl to like you will depend on the time frame that you are looking for. ONS will have a vast difference with someone you want to marry. I haven't been 15 for a long time, but back when I was 15, I was stupid, crazy and too courageous for my own good.
I chose to be single, and was glad to remain single for a long time. I flirted with every single pretty girl, and I sowed confusion by throwing gifts at girls whenever I can get away with it. It made me a lot of enemies in the school (That girl is mine, punk! Bla, bla, bla) but it was fun (for me). It got me into a lot of fights too (gangster's chick story another time).
But what was important was that I acted like a [email protected]@rd to the one girl I really liked. We argued a lot and she alluded that she is not ready to be in a relationship with anyone at that age. So I made fun of her, teased her about every single thing, had her chase me for what was the entire school block, etc. Good times...
Anyway, what happened after that was kinda creepy. I found out that she had a crush on me from day one, but didn't dare to admit it (this is Malaysia, after all, what with conservative parents, etc.). She was, ultimately, turned off because I would flirt too much. In the end, she hooked up with another guy (I was kinda proud that I set it up) and everything was history. Or at least geography because I had to move to another state.
So, what I'm trying to say is, just to be yourself and be honest. If she rejects your true and honest qualities, chances are she doesn't really like you. Even if she does like you, not having the chemistry to spark off the romance will simply cause another heartache.
Since you are still young, I really do suggest that you treat it as a game, in that you'll win some, and you'll very likely lose some.
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Thanks you!
I'll just then be myself!
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Alanrocks15 said:
Sorry for asking just curious
Oh and not to be confused this isn't the other girl from the other thread
I don't talk to her anymore!
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dress up like a twilight character?[/sarcasm]
Nice. And work out Luke Taylor lautner
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just be urself.
if she doesnt likes that, shes not worth it.
thats it, and thats all
if u are that crappy that noone likes u, just continue with it, or u wont be happy with the girl
i mean, be urself, or u have to live as someone else forever, and thats not cool
Identify adapt and overcome. Conform to the girl and get laid. Works errytime
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Don't overthink it. First of all don't ever give a girl too much attention, girls are weird and it scares them away. Second, don't give too LITTLE attention because then they just lose interest. Basically give them a few compliments, make them laugh and walk away and make them come back for more. If they start talking to you after the first time you meet them, that's when they are starting to like you, from then on it's just playing it cool and making the right moves at the right time, but don't wait too long because then comes "THE FRIEND ZONEEEEEEEEEEEE"
You have to chill and just have confidence, girls love that. Don't make it too serious, have some fun with it, and do your thing.
LikeAG2 said:
Don't overthink it. First of all don't ever give a girl too much attention, girls are weird and it scares them away. Second, don't give too LITTLE attention because then they just lose interest. Basically give them a few compliments, make them laugh and walk away and make them come back for more. If they start talking to you after the first time you meet them, that's when they are starting to like you, from then on it's just playing it cool and making the right moves at the right time, but don't wait too long because then comes "THE FRIEND ZONEEEEEEEEEEEE"
You have to chill and just have confidence, girls love that. Don't make it too serious, have some fun with it, and do your thing.
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Beg to differ actually. I have a lot of FWBs. They help keep me a float while waiting for my GF to come back
Okay just found out she has a boyfriend
Ahh I have plenty of time
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1. Beat up the boyfriend
2. Flirt with her so that the boyfriend beats you up
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1. Beat up the boyfriend
2. Flirt with her so that the boyfriend beats you up
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Solved!
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I like this thread.
Hmm giggity sense going haywire giggty giggly boo
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Alanrocks15 said:
Okay just found out she has a boyfriend
Ahh I have plenty of time
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I'd leave well alone then. You don't want to be stirring another mans porridge!
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I'd leave well alone then. You don't want to be stirring another mans porridge!
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Nope. Doesn't work that way. All my FWBs will beg to differ.
Old adage said:
All's fair in love and war
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sakai4eva said:
All's fair in love and war, but especially when your love is like a battlefield
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just wait for the right moment
Wow, so today I found out that my ex-girlfriend now, been messaging her ex-boyfriend telling him he misses her and loves her and wants to be with him behind my back. Let me remind you that she is pregnant with my kid. I read her google chat log and found out all different kind of messages. I was completely shocked and completely *****ed at her. I told her stup*d as* to pack up her sh!t and get the f*ck out of my house. To think I was going to marry her as*.
Wow that's harsh man. Sorry to hear it. If there was no kid involved I'd say you're lucky to have found out, but that's just wrong on the little one. What a role model Mummy's gonna be
Sorry to hear that also, I think you need to care about your child now. Try not to confront her or him, just don't give a crap for the well being of your child (that needs to be your primary focus from now on).
Cheers man and good luck.
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Wow that's harsh man. Sorry to hear it. If there was no kid involved I'd say you're lucky to have found out, but that's just wrong on the little one. What a role model Mummy's gonna be
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Yeah, I really ended up with something huh.. Nice way to start off the New Years.. F*ck that b!tch!
UPDATE: She's calling me telling me sorry and how she doesnt want me to leave.. What a dumb b!tch. Seriously. I told her to get the f*ck out of my life and get her sh!t out. Tired of her bullsh!t.
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Sorry to hear that also, I think you need to care about your child now. Try not to confront her or him, just don't give a crap for the well being of your child (that needs to be your primary focus from now on).
Cheers man and good luck.
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Wow that's harsh man. Sorry to hear it. If there was no kid involved I'd say you're lucky to have found out, but that's just wrong on the little one. What a role model Mummy's gonna be
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Thank you both for hearing me out. Really appreciate the comments. Its good to talk to someone about something awful like this.
Make sure you don't sign that birth certificate until you get DNA confirmation that it's your baby.
I have a friend that got trapped and is paying child support on a child that's not his because he signed (acknowledged) that the child was his.
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Above&Beyond™ said:
Yeah, I really ended up with something huh.. Nice way to start off the New Years.. F*ck that b!tch!
UPDATE: She's calling me telling me sorry and how she doesnt want me to leave.. What a dumb b!tch. Seriously. I told her to get the f*ck out of my life and get her sh!t out. Tired of her bullsh!t.
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That's going to be a hard line to take if she's pregnant with your child... sounds like she might be a part of your life for good now, one way or the other. :/
Still, sorry to hear it bro.
Yeah, it's a tough situation all round. As said above, you are going to be involved in her life now for many, many years, so as Mr Clown said you need to forget your anger towards them because the little one is the most important thing.
Obviously, I agree with Android300ZX that a DNA test is a wise precaution.
Just one pertinent question: Are you sure it's your kid?
One thing to say: She's only sorry because she got caught. Ditch the b*tch bro, plenty of other chicks out there.
also MAKE SURE U RECORD everything when it come time to back what u need ex tv,couch,phone,printer,computer http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qkt7Dx_uK5Y SHE DA CHEATING HO*
Its cheaper to keep her. Eff child support. My dad had to go through it 7, yes that's right, SEVEN times.
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Its cheaper to keep her. Eff child support. My dad had to go through it 7, yes that's right, SEVEN times.
-My life is a shooting range, people never change-
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This statement really pisses me off. One of my employees always says it all the time. It is not about what option is less expensive...it is about what makes you both happy.
You both need to have a heart to heart and decide if you want to make things work or if it is best to separate ways. Take it from someone who was married for 6 years with someone who didnt seem like he wanted to be there...in the end, I was tired of being in love with a man that didn't seem to feel the same about me and we were divorced. Now I am a single mom and things are much better off.
Examine your relationship now before you get to involved. Your baby will be best with 2 parents who love each other, rather then 2 parents who only stay together for the kid.
I agree you should catalog everything that you had pre-relationship with her. It's not marriage but things can go south very fast. I also agree with who ever posted about not signing the birth certificate until you know 110% sure that the baby is yours. I had a girlfriend who was messing around with other guys behind my back when she got pregnant (found that out after we went through everything). Good luck bro
Damn... Sorry to hear that bro
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Hey man, altough you think this is the end of the world, it isn´t. Let your friends and family comfort you, that life goes on.
That will be a prolonged pain. Find time to spend totally away from her to heal.
I'm gonna go back on what I previously said, after thinking about it some more. We've all made mistakes - I've made tons of them! If you care enough about the girl to be planning a family and marriage with her then maybe it's worth at least seeing what happens.
It's easy for someone not in the situation to knee-jerk but what do we know about how you two really feel about each other? Nothing.
Just use this place to vent and see our responses, then ignore them all completely and do what's best for you, your misses and the little one. Just be honest and you can't go wrong.
I usually don't repeat myself but:
-Make sure you get a DNA test!
-A lot of females use that (I'm pregnant) against a guy to keep him. It may very well be true but be careful.
-Record everything! Make a backup on Gmail. I would use Google Voice and have Google Voice be your primary voicemail. If she calls you and leaves a voicemail it will get saved to Google Voice where you can download it to your desktop and keep it on file.
-Take most if not all the things she says to you with a grain of salt.
-Make sure you don't end up looking like the deadbeat that just picked up and left. They tend to make themselves look like the victim to their friends and family.
-If the child is yours take care of your business and appreciate them because they are pure.
-If you find it in your heart to forgive her make sure you really forgive her and not bring it up when you get into the occasional argument.
I have experience in this. My GF cheated on me twice. The first time she would go out with her "girls" (multiple instances of partying with her "girls" and coming back late in the AM) and I found out she was going out with a guy that I knew who was in our circle of friends. She would cut school and hang out with this guy all the while I was paying for her education. She doesn't work or hasn't in the 4 years we've been together because I took care of everything as a man. The second time I caught her was on her birthday when I came home early (unannounced) from work to surprise her and caught her leaving the neighbors house and overheard her on the phone discussing the events with her BFF. I couldn't forgive her because the thought of me seeing this guy's car every day and the fact that I know he's be laughing at me from behind the confines of his home taking me for a sucker. The only reason I haven't pummeled his face in is because of my daughter.
I have a kid with her and I still live with her but we are only together for the sake of my daughter. She graduates this month from school and will get a job in her field so we will sit down and discuss our arrangements and separation.
Just make sure you cover all your bases man.
*** Again, Do the DNA test!! Don't fall for that guilt trip she may put on your about you denying your child and not trusting her ***
They will use that against you and make you succumb to signing the certificate.
Hang in there man, it's tough. I think that you best pursue what's going to be the best for your son or daughter.
There is a test they can do for paternity during gestation, it determines gender among other things of the child, mostly done for at risk older mothers.
If in the end you find you are a father, ill tell you first hand (literally holding my Lil guy) its a feeling like no other. You've got to do what's best for your own, which will likely be to split. Your gf likely grew up on a household with a limited example of a father figure, and you certainly don't want your own kid to turn into the same type of person as her.
Yeah, DNA test seems good suggestion. Make sure wich base it came from. Also maybe ask for a ETA.
Oké, now go to Dr Phill or Jerry Springer. Last time i checked it was a technical forum.
Cheers
Me and my gf have a fight... i accidentally pushed her... but she said to her family i "hit" her... now her family hates me... i know i shouldn't have done it in the first place but i was mad on what she told me.. i lost control.. i shouldnt have done it.... i **** it up...
But again i just pused her?.. i didnt punch her.. if i punch her she be bleeding with black eyes... but no, i stop myself...
I still love her,, I'm hoping she will forgive me.... my parents said she should forgive me if she really loves me...i made a mistake and i won't do it again... but she's having a hard time believing me....
... i message her family and ask for forgiveness.... idk if they will forgive me.....
.. i just feel like my gf like someone new now and just using the "hit" alibi..... but i still love her and i dont wanna think that way... thats why im still tryng to fight for her..
Can you tell us more about the situation?
You aren't supposed to hit girls ever.
But the situation may turn out better for you based on what happened.
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If you truly just pushed her, and that is not good, and she is running around saying you hit her , then kick her to the curb. She is psycho and will lie to get a desired result. And that is not something to lie about. Things will only get worse.
She told me " i dont know what i feel about you anymore".. "i dont wanna hurt your feelings".... thats why i lost my mind.. but i really didnt punch her or anythinh...
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If you truly just pushed her, and that is not good, and she is running around saying you hit her , then kick her to the curb. She is psycho and will lie to get a desired result. And that is not something to lie about. Things will only get worse.
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Thats the thing.. i dont get her anymore... i just really pushed her.. but again.. what she keeps telling people is i hit her.... and the reason i pushed her is because she was acting weird... she doesnt even listen to me anymore.. i told her that we can talk this out.. you dont need to talk to ur mom about this im already here...
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...she told me i control her too much.... she bought this wig and it doesnt look good on her and i told her stop wearing it... but she said all her friends say it looks good... but im just being honest.. she doesnt believe me..... wtf....
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how old are you? dude just leave her alone and act like you dont care and then she will trip out that you arent worried about it or she will just move on and not care! either way prob a good thing since she is acting funny. oh yea and have you seen how many girls are out there in the world find a new one!
Is "pushed" considered abuse or "hit".. ugghh... i just took all the blame... i didnt really hit her.. wtf..
... my parents find it hard to trust her.. her parent find it hard to trust me..... wtf should i do? Im asking forgiveness to her family and hope that they will..... i wanna still fight for this relationship...i dont wanna just throw everything away.....
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...she told me i control her too much.... she bought this wig and it doesnt look good on her and i told her stop wearing it... but she said all her friends say it looks good... but im just being honest.. she doesnt believe me..... wtf....
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Meh if she likes the wig and her friends like the wig let her wear it. If you feel she is not respecting your opinion and its making you angry maybe you should take a break and possibly meet other people and see how you feel after a couple of months. She sounds like she wants a break at the moment. Also I agree if she is going to lie about your altercation its probrobly better to try and move on as you probrobly can't trust her after future arguments
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how old are you? dude just leave her alone and act like you dont care and then she will trip out that you arent worried about it or she will just move on and not care! either way prob a good thing since she is acting funny. oh yea and have you seen how many girls are out there in the world find a new one!
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we are both 19... we've been together for 2 years...i jsut dont wanna throw it all away.... i tried acting i dont care but.. but ,, but ,,, but i fkkking love her...
DustByte said:
Is "pushed" considered abuse or "hit".. ugghh... i just took all the blame... i didnt really hit her.. wtf..
... my parents find it hard to trust her.. her parent find it hard to trust me..... wtf should i do? Im asking forgiveness to her family and hope that they will..... i wanna still fight for this relationship...i dont wanna just throw everything away.....
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Pushing is legally considered assault most places. Cut your losses while you can.
hungry81 said:
Meh if she likes the wig and her friends like the wig let her wear it. If you feel she is not respecting your opinion and its making you angry maybe you should take a break and possibly meet other people and see how you feel after a couple of months. She sounds like she wants a break at the moment. Also I agree if she is going to lie about your altercation its probrobly better to try and move on as you probrobly can't trust her after future arguments
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thats the thing.. i find it hard to trust her.. but again, i love her so much, and shes not like this before.... ugghhh...
i dotn want it to look that its her fault... we both made mistake, but she doesnt accept that she made a mistake too.. she always wanna be right.. i hate that... she not using ehr brain.. all shes using is her emotions.. wtf.....
,.... why everyone telling me to move on and theres a plenty of girl out there
i love her soo much.. omg.. fkk thss...
if her family cant forgive me, i guess thats the time to tell myself i need to move on...
85gallon said:
Pushing is legally considered assault most places. Cut your losses while you can.
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then i guess its all my fault... i messed this up?... ugghhh.. i just hate the way she acted...
she just started keeping secrets... writinng "pros" and "cons" about me... wtf...
Watch out for her man....my brother had a girlfriend who did pretty much the same thing.....after he gave up on her she lied even more about him because she still liked him......does your chick do drugs lol?
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I think maybe you should stop with the confessions to criminal acts online, actually all together, keep your hands to yourself, cut your losses, take an anger management class and find a new woman who performs sexual favors and not reality tv drama filled escalations of bad situations. You got lucky, she could have really messed your life up. And still may.
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Not to be rude but my last relationship started out by just pushing it also had controlling.. i stayed and in the seven years it turned into domestic violence by him.. it was the worst time of my life if you honestly love someone that much let them go if its meant to be itll be.. but you can never say you didnt mean to push hit or say things because its in you learning to control yourself and anger is the first thing i would recommend before allowing her or someone else in your life.. and any girl that wants the attention by lying is honestly just a little immature still and not worth it
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DustByte said:
She told me " i dont know what i feel about you anymore".. "i dont wanna hurt your feelings".... thats why i lost my mind.. but i really didnt punch her or anythinh...
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Did no one else read this? There is nothing okay about getting physical with someone because he or she tells you about being unsure of how he or she feels about the relationship.
You need to give her some space, and you need to figure out what made you feel violence was the answer to her being honest with you. Some people might sugar coat this but that's how this kind of stuff keeps going on. You assaulted her and you need to realize that. There's something wrong with how you saw fit to handle the situation, and honestly it sounds like you are basing too much of who you are on the relationship. Nip this in the bud, now.
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Did no one else read this? There is nothing okay about getting physical with someone because he or she tells you about being unsure of how he or she feels about the relationship.
You need to give her some space, and you need to figure out what made you feel violence was the answer to her being honest with you. Some people might sugar coat this but that's how this kind of stuff keeps going on. You assaulted her and you need to realize that. There's something wrong with how you saw fit to handle the situation, and honestly it sounds like you are basing too much of who you are on the relationship. Nip this in the bud, now.
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i know its my fault? i realized that?..... but she leaves under our families' roof.. she said i control her? cause i keep asking where she goes? who she with?.. my family and i are just worried about her... but no she wants to live free..
... she got kicked out by her mom, no one in her family took her in.. my family did... they didnt like her at first but since i love her they let her in.....
she was hospitalized.. she called all her family members and no one came.. no one answered her call.... im the only one who sat right next to her....
now she have problems with me, she's bestfriend with her mom again?? she cant even talk about it to me? why? is that a relationship?
and now that i "pushed" her all her family is present to help her? now they support her? now they all hate me? now theyre here with her? wtf....wtf...
ScubaSteev said:
Watch out for her man....my brother had a girlfriend who did pretty much the same thing.....after he gave up on her she lied even more about him because she still liked him......does your chick do drugs lol?
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she doesnt do drugs...
@OP
Dude, whatever is going on with that girl and you, it sure ain't love. I haven't actually read a single word you've written that indicates you love her, just going on about how much you and your family have done for her.
She doesn't owe you anything and if she is having doubts about the relationship it is far better that she tells you than keeps it secret. When she told you, that was your opportunity to sit down with her, talk, tell her how you feel and try to work on things -.not to react the way you did or to blame her for her feelings.
Accept that it is probably over. Give her space, let her carry on living under your family's roof if she needs to and let her know that you are sorry, will be there as a friend if she needs it and will deal with the anger issues - professionally if you need to.
The way you reacted physically at 19 years old isn't just a sign of immaturity, it is a precursor to a much worse future - take that as advice from someone who has done time and seen / heard many things that would scare the crap out of you. Deal with your anger NOW before it deals with you.
I was arguing this with my professor. I cannot find a good reason to get a tattoo! I did jokingly say you could get one to cover up an embarrassing tatto lol. What do you guys think?
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UncivilSavage said:
I was arguing this with my professor. I cannot find a good reason to get a tattoo! I did jokingly say you could get one to cover up an embarrassing tatto lol. What do you guys think?
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The best reason that I can give you is that you want something that you can carry with you for the rest of your life!
UncivilSavage said:
I was arguing this with my professor. I cannot find a good reason to get a tattoo! I did jokingly say you could get one to cover up an embarrassing tatto lol. What do you guys think?
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A good reason? Okay. An evil villain has taken over the world and is destroying everything and killing everyone. An old tattooist does tattoos that give the person super powers. You get the tattoo and save humanity. Plus the tattoo is sick and you get tons of b***hes.
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veeman said:
A good reason? Okay. An evil villain has taken over the world and is destroying everything and killing everyone. An old tattooist does tattoos that give the person super powers. You get the tattoo and save humanity. Plus the tattoo is sick and you get tons of b***hes.
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That was a really cr4p reason until the final sentence
Military pride is a legit reason. To this day, if I see an older man with a wrinkly Military based tattoo, he gets much respect.
Good reason? You're really drunk on a Saturday night, and it seems like a really good idea at the time.
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I designed and drew all of mine. Full sleeve on one arm and randoms on the other. I thought it would be the best way to show my work.
Good thing too, because all the original drawings were destroyed in a fire a few years ago. I'm glad I went through with getting them tattooed.
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SimonTS said:
The best reason that I can give you is that you want something that you can carry with you for the rest of your life!
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+1
That's behind every tat on me. It's gotta mean something and you've got to believe it will always mean something,
Good and bad are not quantifiable things. You can't measure goodness. There is no such thing as a "good" reason. There are only reasons. So anybody who has a reason has a "good" reason. It's not done for you to agree with it.
I don't see a good reason. When I see people with tattoos, I don't think of them in a good way. It just looks stupid. That's just me though.
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You were drunk!!!
errrr... Wait! That's an excuse, not a reason!!
Archer said:
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That's behind every tat on me. It's gotta mean something and you've got to believe it will always mean something,
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+1 I got a few, but they each mean something deep personally.
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My humble opinion...
There's no real answer. My first tattoo was a giant 8-bit pixelated Mega Man on my leg. I got it because when I was a kid, my pops lost his business in Boston and we were stuck moving down to Florida where my grandparents lived. We moved into their 2-bedroom "manufactured" home in the middle of a retirement community. My folks saw that my brother and I had no kids in the neighborhood to play with, so they got us an NES and a copy of Mega Man 2 for Christmas that year. I played that game for months on end, well past the point where my parents were obviously annoyed with the music in the game. For that first few months until my family got back on its collective feet, Mega Man was my best friend. Fast forward almost 20 years later, I decided I wanted to get a tattoo, and the Blue Bomber was my choice. I was actually a little afraid that when I went back to visit my mom, she was going to freak out about me getting inked. But instead, she immediately recognized it and even thought it was a great tattoo to get.
The moral of this story? The only reason that matters is the one you rationalize yourself. To most people, a Mega Man tattoo is a silly and nerdy thing to do. To me, it's a silly and nerdy thing to do that reminds me of how much my parents cared about my happiness as a child, no matter what. I'm happy with it, and I couldn't care less if the rest of the world doesn't see or know the reason for it. Every tattoo I have means something to me, and I'm the only one who needs to know it.
I personally cannot think of a reason I'd get one. Other than the military pride that was mentioned because of the whole brotherhood the army gives you. I just don't see myself getting one, but I've heard quite a good amount of reasons for others.
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I think there is no good reason simply because it's hard to remove a tattoo if you don't like this tattoo any more.
t0lik said:
I think there is no good reason simply because it's hard to remove a tattoo if you don't like this tattoo any more.
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anyway, well one good reason to get a tattoo would be because you are extremely compassionate about art.
well that's my reason.. i'm planning to get an awesome tat on my nape as soon as i turn 18 or something, but that tat has to have a significant meaning to my life of course
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I think there is no good reason simply because it's hard to remove a tattoo if you don't like this tattoo any more.
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Twenty years on and i hate my tattoos now. Given the choice i would still have tattoos in the same places, but they would be different tattoos. Therein lies the problem though. Your tastes change from year to year as you yourself change, but tattoos are permanent.
I agree with Card83 and a few others that have said, it's should mean something to you, not just something that is cool at the time like a barb wire arm band because you will come to hate it.
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Well ive always said i would only have my kids names on me.
And when my son was born I had his name tattooed onto my chest. And if i have any more kids then i will be putting there names on my chest aswell.
But apart from that i will not be having any other tattoo on me as anything else wont mean anything to me apart from "looking nice"
A friend of mine got the name of his best friend tattooed inside his wrist when said best friend took his own life two years ago. As a way to remember, and a reminder. They were very close.
And there are always more practical reasons for tattoos. You just don't always consider them. There are a lot of soldiers who get their data tattooed on various bodyparts, just in case. IED's really don't care if you want to keep you bodyparts attached, and thus the tattoos makes IDing easier.
Personally I don't have any. I'm not on good terms with needles.