Guys,i seriously need help over here. I am 17 atm,and i have been smoking for a little over 2 years. I have been smoking around a pack a day,and its killing me. I cannot breathe properly,and i cant run or nothing..so help me. Please. I want a normal life,without those "cancer sticks".
So,any ex smokers wanna share their experiences?
DeHuMaNiZeD said:
Guys,i seriously need help over here. I am 17 atm,and i have been smoking for a little over 2 years. I have been smoking around a pack a day,and its killing me. I cannot breathe properly,and i cant run or nothing..so help me. Please. I want a normal life,without those "cancer sticks".
So,any ex smokers wanna share their experiences?
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I tried using NRT (nicotine replacement therapy) for a while but it just made me feel edgy and aggressive. When I decided to quit in the end I went "cold turkey" and just said no. Was tough as hell for the first week, but the second was a little easier, and the 3rd was a little easier etc.
My advice? Set up a structure to support you while you quit.
Sit down and think:
When do I smoke?
When do I smoke the most?
What can I do to preoccupy myself when these times come?
Then think about how you will deal with it socially. At set times people at work, school ( we all know they do it....) And at party's/social meet ups people will always go out for a smoke. Prepare yourself to say no, letting your friends know that your stopping and it's final and to support you by not waving cigs under your nose every chance they get
Last thing I would do is find some thing to preoccupy your hands. Like twiddiling a pen or pretending its a smoke.
When I quit I used to make roll ups for my friends so that it kept my hands busy and for a while helped me feel like I still smoked ,and was part of the social group, even though I didn't.
At the end of the day I feel like smoking is something we choose to do. In order to be in full control of our body we must be able to say no when want to and stick to it, but know that one slip up every now and again won't ruin everything. Quitting takes nothing more than time and persistence. (In my opinion )
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You started smoking when you was 15 years old?
Ruined world...
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You started smoking when you was 15 years old?
Ruined world...
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Man,alot worse stuff happens every day than a 15 year old smoking.
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I dont like vaping,my throat burns after that,and for a teenager with very little incomes the e-cig is expensive :/
DeHuMaNiZeD said:
Man,alot worse stuff happens every day than a 15 year old smoking.
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I know
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heavy_metal_man said:
I tried using NRT (nicotine replacement therapy) for a while but it just made me feel edgy and aggressive. When I decided to quit in the end I went "cold turkey" and just said no. Was tough as hell for the first week, but the second was a little easier, and the 3rd was a little easier etc.
My advice? Set up a structure to support you while you quit.
Sit down and think:
When do I smoke?
When do I smoke the most?
What can I do to preoccupy myself when these times come?
Then think about how you will deal with it socially. At set times people at work, school ( we all know they do it....) And at party's/social meet ups people will always go out for a smoke. Prepare yourself to say no, letting your friends know that your stopping and it's final and to support you by not waving cigs under your nose every chance they get
Last thing I would do is find some thing to preoccupy your hands. Like twiddiling a pen or pretending its a smoke.
When I quit I used to make roll ups for my friends so that it kept my hands busy and for a while helped me feel like I still smoked ,and was part of the social group, even though I didn't.
At the end of the day I feel like smoking is something we choose to do. In order to be in full control of our body we must be able to say no when want to and stick to it, but know that one slip up every now and again won't ruin everything. Quitting takes nothing more than time and persistence. (In my opinion )
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First,thank you for writing that much!
Well,i pretty much smoke whenever i can,but last night i made a decision. My throat hurt and i coughed like never before,of course,that was because i smoked around a pack during playing LoL. I dont wanna smoke anymore. It is really killing me.
DeHuMaNiZeD said:
First,thank you for writing that much!
Well,i pretty much smoke whenever i can,but last night i made a decision. My throat hurt and i coughed like never before,of course,that was because i smoked around a pack during playing LoL. I dont wanna smoke anymore. It is really killing me.
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So JUST stop it!! Just stop it man!!! You can force yourself!! Throw those packs in trash and burn them and don't buy those things again! You can prevent yourself!
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I dont like vaping,my throat burns after that,and for a teenager with very little incomes the e-cig is expensive :/
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If your throat burns, then something is wrong. That isn't normal. It can also be far less expensive than smoking, so long as you don't end up buying dozens of mods out of sheer love for vaping.
It could be that you are sensitive to PG. Try juice that is almost entirely VG.
It could've been that you've only used high voltage, high wattage or low ohm setups that are startling when you're not used to it.
It could be a wicking issue and you were getting dry hits.
E-cigs are the easiest and most natural method if you can't go cold turkey. Your addiction to smoking has multiple facets, the primary two being nicotine and the act of smoking itself. Vaping fixes both of those. Find a good vape shop and let them help solve the burn problem.
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With the right motivation and willpower, going cold turkey can be done.
I myself don't smoke, never have (I'm allergic to the smoke actually). But I've gotten 9 of my acquaintances to go cold turkey and succeed.
The most important step is you need to want to stop. No doubts. If you're going to do this, give it your 100%. If you have even a shadow of a doubt, it'll be very difficult.
Talk to your friends the first chance you get. Family, too. Explain to them that you're going to stop. Tell them to respect your decision, and that they should not try to persuade you otherwise.
Your friends don't decide what you put in your mouth. YOU DO. That's vital to remind yourself. If they can't respect your decision, they're not your friends. Remember that. You're doing this for you, not for them.
You're going to have to find something to replace it with. Everytime you feel you need a cigarette, eat a gum. Or a gummy bear. Or anything sugary. Sugar's bad but much, MUCH easier to quit.
You'll gain between 10 and 20kg of weight. Accept that. Nicotine reduces your body's need for sustenance, and without it, you'll eat more.
Set a goal. For example, plan to run a set amount of kilometers. Work up to that. (I hate working out, so if you can think of something else you can't do right now because of the smoking, that's fine too.)
Every time you normally buy a pack of cigs, put the money in a box. Everytime you want to go buy one, put the money in the box. Start planning something fun you're going to do or buy with the money you save after a year. Make a list. Write it down, print out a picture, etc. Look at the list or picture every time you need a reminder.
If you can, find someone to lean on when it gets hard. Doesn't matter who or where, just someone you can talk to when you need to. Someone to remind you to go on. Even just someone on the internet, if there's nobody in your life to do so. (I've a friend in Sweden who used to text me at all times just because he had nobody else. He couldn't get down the stairs without severe pains. He's been smoke free for two years now and has just ran 10km in a marathon.)
As has been suggested above, find something to occupy your hands. They sell chocolate cigarettes, give that a try. You'll have something that feels like cigarette, can hold it like one, 'smoke' it, but helps you stop. Alternatively, chewing roots. They're a type of candy, but I don't know if those are for sale everywhere.
Keep a calendar. Cross off every day that you're smoke free. Draw something on it, slap a sticker on it, whatever. Another reminder to keep going.
You can do this. You're stronger than your addicition. You control it, not the other way around. You are not a weak willed little baby! Remind yourself out loud of that as many times as you need to.
Good luck with it, it won't be easy, but I know you can do it
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I started vaping,i found my dad's old e-cigarette,wich was very expensive actually (around 100 €) and it's good,its far better than a cigarette,and i dont have an urge to smoke a real one at all. I'll now slowly ease myself off an e-cigarette and whenever ill get an urge to smoke,ill smoke vapor.
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How many of you here get soo low sometimes you feel like popping your head of? Yeah am that low now. Any bright ideas to get me bubble again, please????
Whoa dude!
remember, after every night there is a morning, Whatever cr*p you have to go through, whatever hurdles you have to jump, trust in yourself.
Best advice I've ever recieved.
If you want someone to listen to all your problems, I'm all ears. Just don't consider rash decisions.....life's waay too precious/
Thanks Buddy
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remember, after every night there is a morning, Whatever cr*p you have to go through, whatever hurdles you have to jump, trust in yourself.
Best advice I've ever recieved.
If you want someone to listen to all your problems, I'm all ears. Just don't consider rash decisions.....life's waay too precious/
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What can i say???? Thank you. Simple words but believe me you made me feel alot better. I mean that. Thank you
and
u can also think about people who go through alot more a day then urself. I just joined the Army and just finished basic training 3 weeks ago, and now go to AIT to become a Information Systems Specialist. My schedule is crazy and I barely have time for myself, but I just keep my head up and look to my battle buddies for morale boosts.
Anytime
Glad to be of help/
Think...
Think about the people in life who matter. If they're the problem then think about... your phone.
My best friend completed suicide 4 years ago. It was devastating!!! The fact that you are here asking, is a good thing. I honestly would urge you to call a hotline the next time you get the blues so bad you feel this way. Suicide is a permanant solution to a temporary problem, and those left behind will never understand why...they will always be left with a hole in their hearts. Trust me on this fact. While it often seems as if it is only you, it isn't. I can guarantee that folks care about you, and that you aren't alone...so go to those folks, or as I mentioned before call a hotline. There is a line in Gone With the Wind..."after all, tomorrow is another day"...you make it dark or sunny, hopefully you will choose to make it sunny.
I hope whatever has you down passes quickly.
You know, i can identify with you man... Life gets ****ty and the past 2 months for me have been the worst, and in all honesty i cant say that i havent had the same thoughts... But i could never do it, i have 2 young daughters and 2 young step daughters that i love more than anything... And i hate to sound like i play favorites, but my 2 yr old means more to me than anything and i couldnt imagine possibly leaving her, if there is one thing that brings me back to this world and reality its her... Moral of my story, there has to be something that will center you and bring you back, think about it
Been there bro...
Been there too... 3 and 6 yr old boys and fantastic wife keep me going.
Check out St. Johns Wart. It really helps me out when Im feeling blue and has little side effects. It has been used extensively in Germany and Europe for years.
I agree with everyone else... There is always tomorrow and it will be a better day.
Cheers.
It would also be a good idea for you to start going to the gym.
Weight lifting has helped me trough some bad times in my life.
It's amaizing how much can a little phisical activity help you.
Go and try it, if nothing else you will at least blow off some steam.
moral of the story is find something to do, something to keep your mind busy, tomorrow is a different day, it cant rain all the time
Exercise...
Try a recumbent bike...
http://www.sunbicycles.com/sun/recumbents.htm
Hey guys I recently forgot to tell you guys that two girls wanted me to ask them out and I lied and told then I was but I never did.
Anyways this girl is out of nowhere beginning to be attractive and really pretty so I told her that I was gonna ask her out!
I think she still likes me so yea oh and did I mention shes white!
Interracial!
Lmao... Sorry, I'm.....I'm gonna get back to this tomorrow... I'm going to sleep haha
-There is a 35% chance that right now I'm on the toilet-
lol , just read the other thread again ... theres alot of knowledge in there , more than enuff
souljaboy said:
lol , just read the other thread again ... theres alot of knowledge in there , more than enuff
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Well, since I'm Chinese, and Chinese medicine likes to hit at the root cause...
Alan, the problem you are facing while 15... well... most of the people here already faced it. At that age, love is a game, and your hormones are affecting you too much for you to be able to react properly.
The Chinese have a saying, "There is no happiness if love is forced" (don't you dare snark me here), so you can't make her like you. If she does, then all is well. If she doesn't... that's too bad for her.
It is vital for you to realize that there are plenty more fishes in the sea. The fields are full of flowers.
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When I was young, I saw a flower. She was the most beautiful flower to me. I stared at this one flower until I failed to notice other flowers in the garden. But this flower was taken by someone else.
Many years later, I came to see this garden again to find this flower. She became like a tree trunk, and the garden became a forest.
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I guess, from my friend's anecdote, it is time to wake up and smell the forest.
Love... well... it is a matter of hit and miss. Fate will always have a hand in your (attempt to find) happiness. Maybe the fate is there, but the time is not right.
Getting a girl to like you will depend on the time frame that you are looking for. ONS will have a vast difference with someone you want to marry. I haven't been 15 for a long time, but back when I was 15, I was stupid, crazy and too courageous for my own good.
I chose to be single, and was glad to remain single for a long time. I flirted with every single pretty girl, and I sowed confusion by throwing gifts at girls whenever I can get away with it. It made me a lot of enemies in the school (That girl is mine, punk! Bla, bla, bla) but it was fun (for me). It got me into a lot of fights too (gangster's chick story another time).
But what was important was that I acted like a [email protected]@rd to the one girl I really liked. We argued a lot and she alluded that she is not ready to be in a relationship with anyone at that age. So I made fun of her, teased her about every single thing, had her chase me for what was the entire school block, etc. Good times...
Anyway, what happened after that was kinda creepy. I found out that she had a crush on me from day one, but didn't dare to admit it (this is Malaysia, after all, what with conservative parents, etc.). She was, ultimately, turned off because I would flirt too much. In the end, she hooked up with another guy (I was kinda proud that I set it up) and everything was history. Or at least geography because I had to move to another state.
So, what I'm trying to say is, just to be yourself and be honest. If she rejects your true and honest qualities, chances are she doesn't really like you. Even if she does like you, not having the chemistry to spark off the romance will simply cause another heartache.
Since you are still young, I really do suggest that you treat it as a game, in that you'll win some, and you'll very likely lose some.
Get her name tattooed across your forehead....
Chicks dig that........
sakai4eva said:
Well, since I'm Chinese, and Chinese medicine likes to hit at the root cause...
Alan, the problem you are facing while 15... well... most of the people here already faced it. At that age, love is a game, and your hormones are affecting you too much for you to be able to react properly.
The Chinese have a saying, "There is no happiness if love is forced" (don't you dare snark me here), so you can't make her like you. If she does, then all is well. If she doesn't... that's too bad for her.
It is vital for you to realize that there are plenty more fishes in the sea. The fields are full of flowers.
I guess, from my friend's anecdote, it is time to wake up and smell the forest.
Love... well... it is a matter of hit and miss. Fate will always have a hand in your (attempt to find) happiness. Maybe the fate is there, but the time is not right.
Getting a girl to like you will depend on the time frame that you are looking for. ONS will have a vast difference with someone you want to marry. I haven't been 15 for a long time, but back when I was 15, I was stupid, crazy and too courageous for my own good.
I chose to be single, and was glad to remain single for a long time. I flirted with every single pretty girl, and I sowed confusion by throwing gifts at girls whenever I can get away with it. It made me a lot of enemies in the school (That girl is mine, punk! Bla, bla, bla) but it was fun (for me). It got me into a lot of fights too (gangster's chick story another time).
But what was important was that I acted like a [email protected]@rd to the one girl I really liked. We argued a lot and she alluded that she is not ready to be in a relationship with anyone at that age. So I made fun of her, teased her about every single thing, had her chase me for what was the entire school block, etc. Good times...
Anyway, what happened after that was kinda creepy. I found out that she had a crush on me from day one, but didn't dare to admit it (this is Malaysia, after all, what with conservative parents, etc.). She was, ultimately, turned off because I would flirt too much. In the end, she hooked up with another guy (I was kinda proud that I set it up) and everything was history. Or at least geography because I had to move to another state.
So, what I'm trying to say is, just to be yourself and be honest. If she rejects your true and honest qualities, chances are she doesn't really like you. Even if she does like you, not having the chemistry to spark off the romance will simply cause another heartache.
Since you are still young, I really do suggest that you treat it as a game, in that you'll win some, and you'll very likely lose some.
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Thanks you!
I'll just then be myself!
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Alanrocks15 said:
Sorry for asking just curious
Oh and not to be confused this isn't the other girl from the other thread
I don't talk to her anymore!
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dress up like a twilight character?[/sarcasm]
Nice. And work out Luke Taylor lautner
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just be urself.
if she doesnt likes that, shes not worth it.
thats it, and thats all
if u are that crappy that noone likes u, just continue with it, or u wont be happy with the girl
i mean, be urself, or u have to live as someone else forever, and thats not cool
Identify adapt and overcome. Conform to the girl and get laid. Works errytime
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Don't overthink it. First of all don't ever give a girl too much attention, girls are weird and it scares them away. Second, don't give too LITTLE attention because then they just lose interest. Basically give them a few compliments, make them laugh and walk away and make them come back for more. If they start talking to you after the first time you meet them, that's when they are starting to like you, from then on it's just playing it cool and making the right moves at the right time, but don't wait too long because then comes "THE FRIEND ZONEEEEEEEEEEEE"
You have to chill and just have confidence, girls love that. Don't make it too serious, have some fun with it, and do your thing.
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Don't overthink it. First of all don't ever give a girl too much attention, girls are weird and it scares them away. Second, don't give too LITTLE attention because then they just lose interest. Basically give them a few compliments, make them laugh and walk away and make them come back for more. If they start talking to you after the first time you meet them, that's when they are starting to like you, from then on it's just playing it cool and making the right moves at the right time, but don't wait too long because then comes "THE FRIEND ZONEEEEEEEEEEEE"
You have to chill and just have confidence, girls love that. Don't make it too serious, have some fun with it, and do your thing.
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Beg to differ actually. I have a lot of FWBs. They help keep me a float while waiting for my GF to come back
Okay just found out she has a boyfriend
Ahh I have plenty of time
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1. Beat up the boyfriend
2. Flirt with her so that the boyfriend beats you up
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1. Beat up the boyfriend
2. Flirt with her so that the boyfriend beats you up
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Solved!
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I like this thread.
Hmm giggity sense going haywire giggty giggly boo
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Alanrocks15 said:
Okay just found out she has a boyfriend
Ahh I have plenty of time
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I'd leave well alone then. You don't want to be stirring another mans porridge!
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I'd leave well alone then. You don't want to be stirring another mans porridge!
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Nope. Doesn't work that way. All my FWBs will beg to differ.
Old adage said:
All's fair in love and war
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All's fair in love and war, but especially when your love is like a battlefield
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just wait for the right moment
that my wife is having an affair. I can't tell my family, friends, or co-workers because they all know her and I'm trying to keep things normal for my kids. So I thought I would tell a bunch of near-strangers instead because I have to tell SOMEBODY! I'm ok, not going to do anything crazy or stupid, I just wanted to get it off my chest.
You should get her drunk and drop her off in the ghetto
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that my wife is having an affair. I can't tell my family, friends, or co-workers because they all know her and I'm trying to keep things normal for my kids. So I thought I would tell a bunch of near-strangers instead because I have to tell SOMEBODY! I'm ok, not going to do anything crazy or stupid, I just wanted to get it off my chest.
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hmm that really sucks man...
when are you going to tell her? eventually you have to...
dont do strange things , keep it up mate
Sometimes doing the right thing, is the hardest thing.
Stuff like this would me up from the inside, i respect people who take the well being of their family over themselves.
Keep strong man, dont let **** like this bring you down
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And dont forget her to show where her stuff and bags are.. when you showed her that, show her where the door is.
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Are you 100 percent sure. This is some serious ****.
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Wrong forum I know, but i'm sorry to hear about your wife. Are you absolutely sure? Someone close to me told his best friend his girl was cheating (lie) so he could be the one to comfort her and become her new guy...it worked. Be sure...btw do you still love her?
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Naw, I'm sure. I don't normally do this, but I felt like something was up, so I snooped her FB. Found a convo between her and this guy talking about their feelings for each other. She might not be banging him, but feelings are maybe worse.
I couldn't ever let my kids know anything - my parents used me and my sisters as weapons in their divorce, I won't do it.
I believe that you have to take some ownership if your significant other cheats - People cheat because they have a need that isn't being met. So I take some responsibility. It still feels a little like being punched in the stomach.
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Naw, I'm sure. I don't normally do this, but I felt like something was up, so I snooped her FB. Found a convo between her and this guy talking about their feelings for each other. She might not be banging him, but feelings are maybe worse.
I couldn't ever let my kids know anything - my parents used me and my sisters as weapons in their divorce, I won't do it.
I believe that you have to take some ownership if your significant other cheats - People cheat because they have a need that isn't being met. So I take some responsibility. It still feels a little like being punched in the stomach.
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"People cheat because they have a need that isnt being met" --> i completely agree with that!
You gotta talk it out.. and yess. The 2nd option is to show her the door..
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It wasn't me
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austontatious said:
Naw, I'm sure. I don't normally do this, but I felt like something was up, so I snooped her FB. Found a convo between her and this guy talking about their feelings for each other. She might not be banging him, but feelings are maybe worse.
I couldn't ever let my kids know anything - my parents used me and my sisters as weapons in their divorce, I won't do it.
I believe that you have to take some ownership if your significant other cheats - People cheat because they have a need that isn't being met. So I take some responsibility. It still feels a little like being punched in the stomach.
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Yes people do cheat cause they are missing something from the relationship, but that isn't your fault. If there was something wrong with your relationship it was both duty to sit and talk about it or maybe search for council. If there wasn't nothing wrong with the two of you, then it's her entire fault, and once again she had the duty to sit and talk with you about it.
And piece of advice, don't just patronize cause of the kids, it will be mush worse. Go to her, talk with her and explain what you just found out. After that both of you make a decision. In case of divorce, at least try to make it the most friendly as possible...
I can't even begin to imagine what you are going through...
I'm a very jealous man and even non issue things drive me insane.
Obviously you can't deal and live with her doing this and be a normal family forever... Take it one day at a time and think it through.
Maybe go see a Counselor or something to talk, many local counties have a department of health and human services where most services are free or low cost where they don't charge you to start and bill you according to your income.
It's very private and uplifting.
. I used them for aoda for some personal issues I had. If you need anyone to talk to, you can pm me.
Also if you have some type of cash or homes /property, please start checking out divorce attorneys and only attorneys that specialize in divorce, preferably a male firm.
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Also I found some things my gf lied to me about to my face multiple times about her past in her Facebook and when confronted months later after a long night together at the bar she still denied it until I said I saw it in her Facebook and the next thing was why are you going through my **** lol
It shouldn't of been a issue because it was her past but I knew she was lying and that was my issue.
Anyways sadly Facebook and other social networking is making this type of behavior easier.
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Naw, I'm sure. I don't normally do this, but I felt like something was up, so I snooped her FB. Found a convo between her and this guy talking about their feelings for each other. She might not be banging him, but feelings are maybe worse.
I couldn't ever let my kids know anything - my parents used me and my sisters as weapons in their divorce, I won't do it.
I believe that you have to take some ownership if your significant other cheats - People cheat because they have a need that isn't being met. So I take some responsibility. It still feels a little like being punched in the stomach.
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their was a guy in Michigan who logged into his wifes email and found she was cheating on him... He was later arrested and charged... see this... he now faces 5 years and a felony so he may not be ever able to work again as felons are usually unable to get work.
http://www.outsidethebeltway.com/appeals-court-rules-husband-can-be-charged-criminally-for-reading-wifes-email/
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It wasn't me
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http://youtu.be/cQ4axo9rmJY
also in some states like Indiana and Colorado adultery is illegal
On the books
Excerpts from state adultery laws:
South Carolina: “Any man or woman who shall be guilty of the crime of adultery or fornication shall be liable to indictment and, on conviction, shall be severally punished by a fine of not less than $100 nor more than $500 or imprisonment for not less than six months nor more than one year or by both fine and imprisonment, at the discretion of the court. ...‘Adultery’ is the living together and carnal intercourse with each other or habitual carnal intercourse with each other without living together of a man and woman when either is lawfully married to some other person.”
Minnesota: “When a married woman has sexual intercourse with a man other than her husband, whether married or not, both are guilty of adultery and may be sentenced to imprisonment for not more than one year or to payment of a fine of not more than $3,000, or both.”
North Carolina: “Fornication and adultery. If any man and woman, not being married to each other, shall lewdly and lasciviously associate, bed and cohabit together, they shall be guilty of a Class 2 misdemeanor: Provided, that the admissions or confessions of one shall not be received in evidence against the other.”
New Hampshire: “A person is guilty of a class B misdemeanor if, being a married person, he engages in sexual intercourse with another not his spouse or, being unmarried, engages in sexual intercourse with another known by him to be married.”
Google_Nexus said:
their was a guy in Michigan who logged into his wifes email and found she was cheating on him... He was later arrested and charged... see this...
http://www.outsidethebeltway.com/ap...e-charged-criminally-for-reading-wifes-email/
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The laws differ in each state and it's a real Grey area.
How do we know she didn't leave her fb open?
Some states allow call recording in court with only one party knowing.
. I believe in a relationship, let alone marriage, that everything should be open, accessible and on the table. but everyone is different.
. I personally would start some spy stuff. There are apps in the play store that secretly install and forward all texts received and sent and if it's your bill and your name on the account its legal.
It's your life and future, along with your children's lives at stake.
Need more information pm me for the app names.
Gps trackers are small and magnetic and are easily hidden.
If it's your car It's also legal.
It's your life.
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Sensitive guy strikes again. These online douchebags talk to and act like they care about ur wife's feelings, then talk em into some crazy affair. Then leaves her high n dry and she realizes she should be with you, for the kids. Put her out, dude, there's tons more that value family and true love more than she apparently does. Hasn't happened to me, but ive had some friends fall prey to "sensitive guy". But, you cant just blame him cud it takes em both to start it. Put her out while u still have some sanity. You'll feel great about it.
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mangohorse said:
Sensitive guy strikes again. These online douchebags talk to and act like they care about ur wife's feelings, then talk em into some crazy affair. Then leaves her high n dry and she realizes she should be with you, for the kids. Put her out, dude, there's tons more that value family and true love more than she apparently does. Hasn't happened to me, but ive had some friends fall prey to "sensitive guy". But, you cant just blame him cud it takes em both to start it. Put her out while u still have some sanity. You'll feel great about it.
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,, I also to fell prey to the quote unquote sensitive guy with my ex 4 years when we were having problems he would swoop in and act like he was caring, listening and whatever. She left and moved out of my place, when she tried to come back and I wasn't having it she was devastated, but I told her now she knew how I felt that entire week and what I did wrong, but it was nothing about me. What goes around comes back around.
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Things are not so easy as you guys put it. Yes it's a ****ed up situation, yes he has all rights to feel bad about it, but by no means he should loose his temper.
If it was me, I would pickup my things and move to a motel our something like that followed by an attorney visit to take care of the divorce. Thing is, there's kids involved, kids that I'm sure he loves. He must do things right to get the best for him and for his kids.
It's easy to talk when we are single, cause we can do pretty much what we want and send the consequences to the hell, not so much when we are married
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That really sucks man... just talk to her ask her what she want being with you...if her answer is negative better of divorcing her and find another wife that will love you and your children..
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Things are not so easy as you guys put it. Yes it's a ****ed up situation, yes he has all rights to feel bad about it, but by no means he should loose his temper.
If it was me, I would pickup my things and move to a motel our something like that followed by an attorney visit to take care of the divorce. Thing is, there's kids involved, kids that I'm sure he loves. He must do things right to get the best for him and for his kids.
It's easy to talk when we are single, cause we can do pretty much what we want and send the consequences to the hell, not so much when we are married
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Yeah I definitely didn't say to do anything related to revenge or anger.
Just advised that he should get more proof and be 150% sure before he says anything. Then if is true, then go get that attorney to get all your affairs in order before the confrontation.
Also OP, I know this is none of our business, but has your relationship with her changed at all recently or anything? What about sex life? Is it the same? Worse?
Is she going out more, working "longer hours", or just acting suspicious?
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I asked my person of interest for the first time in my life. We met in a group discussion which went for 2 weeks and I had a liking for her from 1 month ago. When I asked, she was nice about it and said no and that we should stay friends. I shrugged it off and said OK, thanks for being nice.
The problem is that, I can't think of anything else now, I know that the world isn't ending just because 1 person rejected me. However I can not stop myself and it is turning me into a depressed wreck. How do you guys deal with it? What is your story?
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Every experience with a person of the opposite sex, whether friendship or romance, is a lesson to learn to prepare you for meaningful relationships later, such as marriage. Learn from it and move on. Remember, being friends with girls is good, because they have other friends who are girls, and may try to hook you up.
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You've had a strong mating reaction to a member of the opposite sex. Your body has released a flood of dopamine into your brain so you will feel vaguely sick and your appetite will be suppressed.
I suggest playing Counter Strike for twelve hours a day until your brain functions return to normal.
I find distraction is the best reaction in this situation your mind will get over it with time, and not much else. So keep yourself busy while you wait! Play some games you've not played in a long time, (like counter strike as suggested above ), or do you have any android projects you have always wanted to try like making a custom Rom, or beta test some non stable roms for some devs, I also recommend going for a long walk. It sounds to simple to make any difference but a long walk can give your mind a chance to rattle things out and come to terms with things lastly your right, the worlds not going to end for some girl, so don't beat yourself up about it your only human and we have good and bad experiences, just be glad that ones over
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You've had a strong mating reaction to a member of the opposite sex. Your body has released a flood of dopamine into your brain so you will feel vaguely sick and your appetite will be suppressed.
I suggest playing Counter Strike for twelve hours a day until your brain functions return to normal.
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Listen to this man, he is wise beyond his years. I'm 34, and have had my share of rejection. I know it doesn't feel like it right now, but you will get over it. Just concentrate on you for the time being.
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When a study about love was carried out, scientists put subjects in an MRI scanner and looked to see what was going. They would show the subjects pictures of somebody they loved to see which areas of the brain were activated and then show them pictures of somebody they hated. The same areas of the brain were activated in both cases.
Right now you're suffering because of feelings of love for this girl, but when you start to hate her for rejecting you, the feelings that you have, and the reaction your brain has to it will be exactly the same. Either way it's angst and despair.
Love=Hate. Get your head around that!
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When a study about love was carried out, scientists put subjects in an MRI scanner and looked to see what was going. They would show the subjects pictures of somebody they loved to see which areas of the brain were activated and then show them pictures of somebody they hated. The same areas of the brain were activated in both cases.
Right now you're suffering because of feelings of love for this girl, but when you start to hate her for rejecting you, the feelings that you have, and the reaction your brain has to it will be exactly the same. Either way it's angst and despair.
Love=Hate. Get your head around that!
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Huh, explains why I hate my wife sometimes.
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LoopDoGG79 said:
Huh, explains why I hate my wife sometimes.
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Now would be a good time to clear your Browser history!
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Now would be a good time to clear your Browser history!
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That's what incognito mode is for.
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LoopDoGG79 said:
That's what incognito mode is for.
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The OP did ask how people here deal with rejection, so perhaps one of you married guys could answer that? My understanding is that wives say no all the time! :laugh:
The tried and true method would be Alcohol of course. That's what guys usually turn to at these difficult times. To find out how that works, it's best to imagine the alcohol as Pac-Man running through your arteries, chomping away at all the nasty hormones until it's cleared all the levels. Once you're good and drunk all the hormones are gone, leaving you with a strange urge to eat a greasy lamb kebab, and a minging headache in the morning.
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The OP did ask how people here deal with rejection, so perhaps one of you married guys could answer that? My understanding is that wives say no all the time! :laugh:
The tried and true method would be Alcohol of course. That's what guys usually turn to at these difficult times. To find out how that works, it's best to imagine the alcohol as Pac-Man running through your arteries, chomping away at all the nasty hormones until it's cleared all the levels. Once you're good and drunk all the hormones are gone, leaving you with a strange urge to eat a greasy lamb kebab, and a minging headache in the morning.
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I prefer to let her drink alcohol, and much away at her hormones, and hopefully get her to stop rejecting me. Of course, it could backfire depending on the time of the month and poor choice of words or actions on your part, which of course you know you did a week later in some random argument... You know what, a beer sounds good right now.....
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Time *will* make it easier. Think back to anything else in your life that brought you down, from simple things like not being able to buy that brand new game you wanted because you didn't have enough cash, right through to the more serious things in life, like losing friends and/or family and suffering grief. Think about those things and how it felt like you'd never get over them (depending on the seriousness of whatever it is you're thinking of), and then think about how you feel about it now. You'll realise that things just do get better over time.
Incidentally, I personally wouldn't take the advice to drink through it. Alcohol lowers certain chemical levels in the brain for days after that regulate how you feel. You can do yourself serious damage that way and turn a temporary problem into clinical depression, not to mention the fact that relying on alcohol for anything is a recipe for disaster.
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I asked my person of interest for the first time in my life. We met in a group discussion which went for 2 weeks and I had a liking for her from 1 month ago. When I asked, she was nice about it and said no and that we should stay friends. I shrugged it off and said OK, thanks for being nice.
The problem is that, I can't think of anything else now, I know that the world isn't ending just because 1 person rejected me. However I can not stop myself and it is turning me into a depressed wreck. How do you guys deal with it? What is your story?
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What is the real reason behind your depression
1- You were rejected
2- You cant be with her anymore, and i am pretty sure you can't be friends
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Incidentally, I personally wouldn't take the advice to drink through it...
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Hey, men have been drinking because of women since the dawn of time. It's why we invented the pub!
The OP isn't 'depressed', he has a sad.
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Hey, men have been drinking because of women since the dawn of time. It's why we invented the pub!
The OP isn't 'depressed', he has a sad.
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I know what you're saying, and I wasn't trying to be heavy or down on what you said, but without moderation it *can* become depression with the addition of alcohol, over long term. A few nights cutting loose is obviously a totally different thing though.
I've personally known people start off just a bit low and end up fully depressed because of alcohol. It's unfortunately a very slippery slope as it *does* make you feel better when you're drinking, but leaves you lower than you started for a few days afterwards, which can lead to another drink because, "Hey, it worked last time, right?" And rinse and repeat. Sad becomes depressed becomes clinically depressed, and that can last for life if not treated correctly.
Anyway, this is far too heavy and now I'm having a sad. There's always the old adage, that the easiest way to get over someone is to get under someone else
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There's always the old adage, that the easiest way to get over someone is to get under someone else
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And with that the OP gets the best solution to his problem! :good:
I wouldn't seriously encourage anyone to drink to resolve issues. I'm a teetotaller myself so i find crying into my cornflakes works best for me when i'm blue, or going down the gym and pumping iron for an hour or two. We'll go with the latter one as it sounds more manly!
m1l4droid said:
Huh, I've never experienced rejection. Because I've never tried!
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He who dares wins Milad, he who dares wins. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Alcohol is a short term solution, and has long terms impact.
I would recommend you to just stay busy, go out hang out. Play games( yes it does work)
dont rely on alcohol.
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Believe it or not, this Tuesday, in a social gathering at my university, a girl approached and talked to me. I didn't get her number in the end though. It was getting awkward when I said 'I should be going' and left for home. But it was the first of many things for me.
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Practice makes perfect. With a little more practice you'll be getting girls' numbers, then their address...oh wait. :what:
Yeah, I've been there but at least this girl of yours was nice about it and told you politely and even wanted to remain friends. The girl I fell for just ignored me completely and blocked me on all social media . My advice ? Go out with your mates. Hit the gym. Spend time with the family. Take up a new hobby. Video game a little. Just do something to take your mind off her . It's the holidays, cheer up
Too many of my friends now days will freak out, almost have a complete meltdown if their phone is lost or broken. I sit in public places such as a restaurant or a bar and its unusually quite. I look around to see why, and nearly everyone is busy messing with their phones. It may be the way of the future, but a miserable one if this is the trend. Kids no longer play with one and another, but chat on social media, even finding a date that way. When a kid gets mad now days he just deletes you from his or her "friends". If you told anyone twenty years ago that you would one day have a device that tracks your every move, records what you say and what ever else it hears, can recognize faces, knows who all your friends are, knows your feelings and opinions, knows your deepest darkest secrets, and could be easily accessed by almost anyone and here's the kicker.... not only will you pay for it, but you would buy the device willingly, even as a gift for others. You would have told some one they were crazy. So maybe we a crazy for owning such a device and making it the center of our lives, even so far as not being satisfied with it in its present state, but further modifying it....... Just a thought.
Cell phones and instant messages / texts
well, how about this then? Have you ever thought what it would be like if we could at any second of the day tell anyone else what we thought of them? If we were mad at them we could just let them have it right there and then. um, ya.. Twenty years ago if there was a girl you liked you would have to go and talk to her. Ya, you could call her on the phone but then you would either have to use the phone in the kitchen or grab the cordless, but only might last for 20 mins or so. Now with texting and instant messages of all kinds you can send any comment off any time you like. A couple girls I know told me (each at different times) that on any given Friday afternoon they could get upwards of 50 text messages, all from guys, all generally sexual in nature. 50 guys! All asking if they can have a piece that weekend? Sad but true, and I live in a small town. Thats not all, say you've already got the girl, say you have an argument. Used to be you would have all night to cool off, maybe think things through... Now you can continually fire off messages, texts , email you name it. Bury the poor girl in literature... Dig yourself a hole so deep your never going to recover... Wasn't like that before. Poor girls can't get a break from us now. Now we are all reduced to basically somewhat the same, just another animal looking for sex. it doesn't matter how smooth you thought you were being - she didn't even read it! you were number 21 of 50... and you know? When I asked her if she would like to come over and what she wanted for breakfast I thought I was being cute. Ten other guys asked her the same question...
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well, how about this then? (im not quoting myself )..
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Just another thought. If, lets say, you don't believe me... All I ask is that you ask one girl today. Ask her how many texts she gets from guys that are either borderline unacceptable or downright wrong. Especially right before the weekend or even late at night. Do you do it? I know I have. I didn't realize the impact it could have.... Just ask.
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wow nice
All the time. It's crazy when I look around at all the people just tapping away on a piece of glass in an effort to feel less empty.. lol