When life is too much like Dilbert - Off-topic

Background:
I've been assigned an "Unofficial" project at work (and I keep being told it is unofficial) to streamline one of our processes. I've been told that my day to day work is of most importance and I should only be working on the unofficial project when I don't have anything else to do.
At first I found plenty of time, but recently the day to day stuff has been taking up more and more time where I don't have much time if any to work on the unofficial project.
So in my bi-weekly meeting with my supervisor 2 weeks ago I said "I'm really concerned about running out of time before the deadline you had chosen initally" and that our manager wasn't allowing me to have overtime to work on this project.
I was told everything was fine he wasn't concerned.
Yesterday at the following meeting he said "I'm really concerned about running out of time before our deadline"
REALLY?!
So now I'm in this position where I can't have the overtime I need to meet the deadline but if I miss the deadline (since this is the first real "project" they've put me on since they've changed managers in my group) I feel that this will be a big red mark on my next review.
I've already pretty much been told if the project works out as planned I'll most likely get the promotion that they didn't give me last year. (From a "blah blah blah" to a Sr. "Blah blah blah") This promotion coincidentally was given to the other guy in our department that was hired the same day as me because though he's younger than me by about 5 or 6 years and has had less college experience than me, they've appointed him to be the executive contact for our department and he's good at schmoozing with them.
So I'm in the position now where, I can't have the overtime to get everything I need done for this "unofficial project" and unoffical projects are not funded and do not have overtime. But if I don't get it done, I may not get the promotion I was expecting.
I've already come in once on a weekend to work for 2 hours to get caught up on paperwork "for free" (and I'm not salaried) And I feel like I may just have to do it again for other stuff.
(Head explodes)

thats a lot of work, why don't you organise a meeting yourself and tell them that you don't have enough time?
Or have a private chat with the boss about perhaps getting paid for working on weekends?

Well I did talk to my supervisor in a more informal setting today and said basically I need some overtime or we're not going ot make it and I offered to come in this weekend and get caught up. He said he'd talk to our manager and he thinks it would be ok.
(*relief*)

Stonent said:
Well I did talk to my supervisor in a more informal setting today and said basically I need some overtime or we're not going ot make it and I offered to come in this weekend and get caught up. He said he'd talk to our manager and he thinks it would be ok.
(*relief*)
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There you go, i hope everything goes to plan!

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[No Nexus 4] Everyone who didn't get a Nexus 4

Well I stayed up all night on Monday, refreshed the Google play page pretty much all day long on Tuesday. Didn't see anything except for "Coming Soon" and "Sold Out".
This thread is for all the people that will be looking for the next batch of phones. Posting useful links related to the next batch, speculation, rumors, etc. I'm interested in how many people actually didn't get one.
Post if you didn't get one, where your located, and what phone your stuck with until you get one.
I'm in British Columbia, (West Coast) Canada. Stuck with a Motorola Milestone, that I'm about to flash CM6 to. Yes I said CM6, because CM7 barely runs on it.
This thread is a waste in my opinion. Look at me, i live in europe and there's not even a play store. I want one badly but that's life and we have no other choice but to wait.
There are 1000's maybe 10000's maybe even 100000's of users that want one but couldn't get one.
In.
Toronto, Canada. Same story as yours - stayed till 3am, was at school at the time, brought my laptop and everything, checked during lunch at 12EST... extremely pissed.
Stuck with a crappy iPhone 1, which doesn't receive texts, and doesn't receive calls half the time. I need a phone... badly :/
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Well I stayed up all night on Monday, refreshed the Google play page pretty much all day long on Tuesday. Didn't see anything except for "Coming Soon" and "Sold Out".
This thread is for people like me, that are impatiently waiting to get our Nexus 4. I'm interested in how many people actually didn't get one.
Post if you didn't get one, where your located, and what phone your stuck with until you get one.
I'm in British Columbia, (West Coast) Canada.
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I live in the UK... woke up at 5am Tuesday morning. Had auto refresher on while playing a game. Saw it go live at 8:12am or near it and tried to buy it for about 50minutes.
I'm stuck with the HTC wildfire cause I returned my SGS3 1-2months ago.
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This thread is a waste in my opinion. Look at me, i live in europe and there's not even a play store. I want one badly but that's life and we have no other choice but to wait.
There are 1000's maybe 10000's maybe even 100000's of users that want one but couldn't get one.
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OK... But what I'm interested in, is people who actively tried to buy one from the Play Store in a supported country, and could not. You are correct that many people exist in the world who had no choice.
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OK... But what I'm interested in, is people who actively tried to buy one from the Play Store in a supported country, and could not. You are correct that many people exist in the world who had no choice.
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This is similar to the poll threads that got closed. I don't think admins will keep this going.
- Doctors say my ugliness will be such an hindrance to my life that they declared me disabled for being so ugly crew
- Might as well be castrated crew
- Balding crew
- Chicks would rather smash a guy with HIV unprotected than me crew
- Suicide helpline encourage me to commit suicide crew
- Never fapped crew
- Sometimes I have the male version of the girl version of wet dreams crew
- Never smash anything less than 8/10 crew
All those crews, but not "No Nexus Crew"
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- Doctors say my ugliness will be such an hindrance to my life that they declared me disabled for being so ugly crew
- Might as well be castrated crew
- Balding crew
- Chicks would rather smash a guy with HIV unprotected than me crew
- Suicide helpline encourage me to commit suicide crew
- Never fapped crew
- Sometimes I have the male version of the girl version of wet dreams crew
- Never smash anything less than 8/10 crew
All those crews, but not "No Nexus Crew"
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I need links to all those, so I can join please.
I was on the site exactly as it changed from "coming soon" to "add to cart", but didn't manage to secure an order within the 20 minutes of it being on sale.
Extremely frustrated that now I'm not going to get the phone till next week at the very earliest.
Waste of server resources and no benefit. Consider thread dead.
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Waste of server resources and no benefit. Consider thread dead.
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hahahaha, your post definitely helped though. Thanks man.
The point of a forum is for discussion.... How is a single thread a waste. As long as people are communicating it's not a waste.
I think we need a thread for all the people that will be looking for the next batch of phones. Posting useful links related to the next batch, speculation, rumors, etc.
Had in my cart the second was available, but fkn errors would prohibit the purchase, either items disappeared from the cart, google wallet would hang and then give out an error, tried 5 times, then it went out of stock... WTF GOOGLE THIS IS A MAJOR ****UP...
PS: Didnt sleep until 3 am and woke up at 8 to make sure I get the phone only to fail because of google server issues **** THIS ****!!!
Had it in my cart so many times and every time I pressed by I got an technical issue error message, so frustrating...
Some of us (BeNeLux) will not get the phone at all! Don't complain that you could not get the first batch, there will always be second/ third and so on...
I woke up at 8 to see if they were for sale. I tried around 5 times to buy. On the 5th time, i got one, due to be shipped on the 15th. Only took me maybe 10-15 mins?
Just thought id say
Seriously? There is no need for a thread like this. Continue discussion in one of the other shipping threads.

The GPS tracking that can possibly destroy my marriage...

Hello All:
I came here seeking advice from tech savvy individuals before my situation gets out of hand.
I have been engaged for several months now and I do everything for her - and I mean everything! From romantic dates, to helping her learn English (I create study plans), I treat her with love, respect and kindness, I am honest, I am faithful, I cook for her almost everyday day ...heck, I even rub her feet at night! I try to be the best man that I can.
She seemed like the perfect girl at first and showed me great character, personality and beauty - althogh some of my friends are skeptical and believe she may be using me for a Canadian citizenship (she is from Africa).
In the last two months, I have caught her erasing WhatsApp messages, SMS, call history, etc. I began periodically checking her phone and found that she was heavily into pornography (everyday - please have a mature mind), so I spoke to her about it - she downright lied to my face when I had asked her 5 times and now, she deletes her browser history regularly. I have always caught her deleting POF (plenty of fish) emails as they come in, but she claims she is inactive.
One night, when we were both laying in bed, she received a call from this guy at 23h30 (1130pm) while we were watching a romantic movie - she takes it. For the next 30 minutes, she spoke to him in her native tongue, laughed, smiled and I overheard the guy on the phone, who was talking in a deep flirtacious voice (most of you know what this means). I asked her to drop the call and she laughed at me and continued.
This is when I began to suspect she was cheating on me and perhaps that my friends were right all along.
I am using a GPS tracker on her phone (via Google Location History and Device Manager) and on several occasions, where she was supposed to be at work, the GPS reports shows her 5-7 minutes away from work in a hotel for 2-3 hours! I have all the data printed for a potential confrontation.
My question to you is how accurate is this GPS? It says 22-30 feet, but is it REALLY 22-30 feet? The GPS circle doesn't even range at her work area - could I be wrong or am I just in denial?
Can I perhaps PM someone screenshots of this to get a second/third look?
I am highly considering placing a spy Android app on her phone to get a second set of "proof" to end the engagement before I get burned. Please give me your advice and assistance as I don't want my marriage to be a sham and have my life completely destroyed. I have already given up a high paying job so we can be in proximity amongst other things - heck, I even plan to give up my dream of being a teacher because the university she was accepted to (the entire city) does not have my program - it's just too far and we all know how well long distance relationships work, right? ...I feel sick to my stomach right now.
Thoughts?
Talk to her?
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Kareem83 said:
Hello All:
I came here seeking advice from tech savvy individuals before my situation gets out of hand.
I have been engaged for several months now and I do everything for her - and I mean everything! From romantic dates, to helping her learn English (I create study plans), I treat her with love, respect and kindness, I am honest, I am faithful, I cook for her almost everyday day ...heck, I even rub her feet at night! I try to be the best man that I can.
She seemed like the perfect girl at first and showed me great character, personality and beauty - althogh some of my friends are skeptical and believe she may be using me for a Canadian citizenship (she is from Africa).
In the last two months, I have caught her erasing WhatsApp messages, SMS, call history, etc. I began periodically checking her phone and found that she was heavily into pornography (everyday - please have a mature mind), so I spoke to her about it - she downright lied to my face when I had asked her 5 times and now, she deletes her browser history regularly. I have always caught her deleting POF (plenty of fish) emails as they come in, but she claims she is inactive.
One night, when we were both laying in bed, she received a call from this guy at 23h30 (1130pm) while we were watching a romantic movie - she takes it. For the next 30 minutes, she spoke to him in her native tongue, laughed, smiled and I overheard the guy on the phone, who was talking in a deep flirtacious voice (most of you know what this means). I asked her to drop the call and she laughed at me and continued.
This is when I began to suspect she was cheating on me and perhaps that my friends were right all along.
I am using a GPS tracker on her phone (via Google Location History and Device Manager) and on several occasions, where she was supposed to be at work, the GPS reports shows her 5-7 minutes away from work in a hotel for 2-3 hours! I have all the data printed for a potential confrontation.
My question to you is how accurate is this GPS? It says 22-30 feet, but is it REALLY 22-30 feet? The GPS circle doesn't even range at her work area - could I be wrong or am I just in denial?
Can I perhaps PM someone screenshots of this to get a second/third look?
I am highly considering placing a spy Android app on her phone to get a second set of "proof" to end the engagement before I get burned. Please give me your advice and assistance as I don't want my marriage to be a sham and have my life completely destroyed. I have already given up a high paying job so we can be in proximity amongst other things - heck, I even plan to give up my dream of being a teacher because the university she was accepted to (the entire city) does not have my program - it's just too far and we all know how well long distance relationships work, right? ...I feel sick to my stomach right now.
Thoughts?
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Well, that's a lot of Information to cover. The thing I would be asking yourself is if you were vindicated could you cope with it? If she hasn't done a thing and you were wrong could you put your paranoia behind you? What's been happening here in my personal opinion is unhealthy for you at minimum and very damaging to your relationship. I'm concerned about how little you mention any positives about her. Even if you do get your answers has the damage already been done?
You should never have to give up your dreams for love.
As far as GPS is concerned it can be accurate to a few metres if conditions are optimal for example a clear unobstructed skyline and satellite above. Things can get distorted when buildings get involved, interference from other technology etc.
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Break up with her now and cut your loses. Also, next time, don't be so nice. Ugly truth is, you got to be a slight jerk with your women for her to respect you. Don't ask my why, it's the way it is. If you're in a relationship, be the man, not the servant in the relationship.
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@Kareem83 Ohh man, I feel sorry for you. Not because of what she does, but because your suffering for not being able to let go of her. If there's any truths to all what you say, then there's only one way for you to be happy, drop her, like she's hot! And I say this, not because it is impossible to live with a person that have other interests, but because (1) you are not able to speak to each other about this, in an honest way, and (2) since you're even bringing this up here, it means you're really suffering from the idea that she could be with others.
Whoot! Giving up your job and dreams for a woman is just so wrong. It will never last, and it will not make either one of you happy, in the long run.
At this point you only have two options.
1) Let her go, and with that I mean get rid of her! Never fight with her when or before leaving, leave her as a proud man with good memories. Tell her you love her, but that you're just not her type.
2) Completely accept and embrace the fact that we live in a modern world where we as humans are more than capable to have multiple relationships and sexual partners, and still love each other. But from little psycho-analysis possible from your text above, this is not the right type of a relationship for you.
Good Luck!
(And please let us know what you do and how it goes.)
PS. There's no need for any more tracking and spying, just get over your denial and make a decision.
Ya Bud,if you havent yet,I'd kick her to the curb.Sounds like she is at the very least still looking for something else.Trust is most important in a relationship if you ain't got that,you got sh!t

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Hey everybody, I am not posting to my own Facebook don't expect this to go anywhere, just need to vent I guess you can say. I was with a girl in 2012 she became pregnant and everything was going great. Well when I got with her I didn't know much about her past relationship. She wasn't just someone I had knew her back in highschool an when we got together it was many years after. I digress anyway she told me she was pregnant great awesome everything seemed to be going okay. Suddenly she stopped contact with me, she went back to her ex of 4years. He knew full well it was not his child. One day I get a message on the internet from her roommate saying she was posting that was in labor. Well her roommate comes down and I find out she cut ties with her roommate as well. But that wasn't it the day before she had slept with me she had slept with her ex roommates husband and then a couple hours later their best friend. Needless to say the child could've been anyone's I accepted the fact and we all went to the hospital she was giving birth at. When we went into the room her ex now again boyfriend was there and she wanted nothing to do with us and would not let us get a paternity test. She let her boyfriend sign as the father of the child again he knows full well the child isn't his. Me and the other potential fathers went to court to try and do it ourselves to order a paternity test but she ignored it all. Then to demand answers or so I thought I went to child support went through that ordeal. An basically was told since her boyfriend signed paternity of child nothing could be done and they would not force her to come. How could that be?? If I was a mother wanting to know they would rip heaven and hell to get me answers. But as a potential father wanting to know answers I was basically thrown out like I didn't matter. The baby was born June 29th 2013 and she is absolutely gorgeous from the pictures I gathered from the web. Everyday it eats me not to know the answers and be a father to an absolute angel. I know 2000 isn't a lot but I have had a horrible year with a layoff because of a really bad car accident. I'm not asking for a handout I would gladly pay back once I get the ball rolling on a job once again. Thank you
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Hey everybody, I am not posting to my own Facebook don't expect this to go anywhere, just need to vent I guess you can say. I was with a girl in 2012 she became pregnant and everything was going great. Well when I got with her I didn't know much about her past relationship. She wasn't just someone I had knew her back in highschool an when we got together it was many years after. I digress anyway she told me she was pregnant great awesome everything seemed to be going okay. Suddenly she stopped contact with me, she went back to her ex of 4years. He knew full well it was not his child. One day I get a message on the internet from her roommate saying she was posting that was in labor. Well her roommate comes down and I find out she cut ties with her roommate as well. But that wasn't it the day before she had slept with me she had slept with her ex roommates husband and then a couple hours later their best friend. Needless to say the child could've been anyone's I accepted the fact and we all went to the hospital she was giving birth at. When we went into the room her ex now again boyfriend was there and she wanted nothing to do with us and would not let us get a paternity test. She let her boyfriend sign as the father of the child again he knows full well the child isn't his. Me and the other potential fathers went to court to try and do it ourselves to order a paternity test but she ignored it all. Then to demand answers or so I thought I went to child support went through that ordeal. An basically was told since her boyfriend signed paternity of child nothing could be done and they would not force her to come. How could that be?? If I was a mother wanting to know they would rip heaven and hell to get me answers. But as a potential father wanting to know answers I was basically thrown out like I didn't matter. The baby was born June 29th 2013 and she is absolutely gorgeous from the pictures I gathered from the web. Everyday it eats me not to know the answers and be a father to an absolute angel. I know 2000 isn't a lot but I have had a horrible year with a layoff because of a really bad car accident. I'm not asking for a handout I would gladly pay back once I get the ball rolling on a job once again. Thank you
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Hey everyone, I'm E-Jay and 2 years ago I knew absolutely nothing about Android, apps, or anything related to it. I was interested in Facebook and only because in 2013 I had started a group for people recovering from drug and alcohol addiction or looking for help finding recovery resources, I myself am in recovery, and it was more successful than I ever could imagine. Unfortunately in 2018 I had left the group in the hands of my #1 admin while I was out of town working because I didn't have the spare time to put 100% into the group and it's membership and I had done this multiple times in the 5yrs of it's existence. Now with over 10k followers and a list of on call recovery professionals we called The Recovery Professional Network, we guaranteed that any active user anywhere in the USA would be in a bed in a rehab center within 24hrs of reaching out for help as long as they did they're part and followed through and not a single time was that promise broken. Including one Alaskan member which amazed even me. During my absence the woman running the group added an admin member who we both knew from interaction in the group who I never cared for but Rachel, my admin really liked. When she asked if I was ok with it I told her about the alarm bells that went off the time I talked to her but know I'm a very unsocial person and said it's her call because I was away indefinitely and she went ahead and added her. About a month later I noticed I hadn't gotten notifications from my group in a few days and normally got 20+ so signed in and to my surprise the new admin member had removed Rachel from the group and blocked her, removed the other admins, and put By Her Name with her work title next to her name. Even removed my active profile but fortunately I still had access to the profile I started the group with and as owner she couldn't remove me. I had no idea how long it had been like that but immediately logged in the owner profile, removed her, and took her name off the page. Unfortunately, the damage was done. She had used my group for her job as a headhunter for recovery centers. At that time it was a common practice and they were banned from the group because the profession was known for underhanded tactics, illegal even. She had gotten a minor from the group in a Florida rehab, flew him down, did the paperwork fictitiously, and used with him when he got there. The mother was being charged with Medicaid fraud and the kid a mess and worse than ever in his addiction. So, I decided that the damage to the group was to much to recover from. I didn't have the free time it would take to repair the damage done. So I archived it because I always said if it ever got to where it wasn't the tool that active users could count on to help them, free of charge, any way possible in their recovery I would shut it down. I did exactly that. About 6 months later started another one that was attached to a conspiracy theory blog. Once again it was more successful than I imagined. About 2 months in with a couple thousand followers I started researching groups that are tied to the subject and did a post about the yellow vest protest in France. The research for this brought me into contact with Anoyomous and other hacktivist groups because they are front line fighters against what is known as the NWO, one of the most well known conspiracy theories and in my eyes one that has evidence of truth everywhere you look. I started noticing strange things my PC and then my phone started to do and eventually shut the group down because I was certain I had been hacked. I got consumed by trying to figure out who and how someone was doing what was going on with my devices. Everyone I know thought I was crazy and after 18 months of looking and telling people who always had same reaction of looking at me like I lost my mind and saying as much behind my back, I quit talking about it. I even stopped using my phone even though I knew I was right because 50 or more times I thought I was being led to a certain thing that I was being led to believe was happening in my personal life that ended up being true. 100% of the conclusions I thought was being told to me ended up being true. Yet still, everybody thought I was crazy and still do honestly. Yesterday I discovered Total Virus and scanned my device there and finally I have proof my OS is corrupted. The scan found a keylogger, 2 Trojas one which is a dropper and hides the viruses in legit apps so antivirus apps don't find them, and finally a RAT or Remote Operation Terminal that gives the owner full operational control of my device including the mic, camera, and files. The reason I am posting here is to ask for help A-tracing who did this because part of me suspects it's someone I know but the other part remembers the time with the hacktivist and a argument I had with one certain person that ended with us both not liking each other. B-emoving these from my system without losing everything and having to start over. I have made countless Google accounts, profiles, multiple devices, and have deleted more apps than I can count yet still at this followed me through these two years. I appreciate any help I can get and thank you in advance. I look forward meeting anyone from this forum who thinks they can help and has the willingness to do so. I attached Screenshots Of the Total VIRUS scAN aND SD maids oVErVIeW oF MY dEvCE.

Is this a valid reason to cancel last minute?

5yr old's bday is planned 2weeks ahead of time, then morning of, my brother who asked to host, asked to cancel and reschedule for the following day.
Reasons given, my brother's fiancé has her mom's death anniversary, and her grandmother is in the ICU with skin cancer, and she can't get it off work.
1) If this day bothered you so much, wouldn't you have recognized the date when we planned it? Or at least just not the morning of?
2) for skin cancer to put you in the ICU, that means you've had it for a while, so it's no shock. So go be with your grandma, absolutely, but why does it matter if you're with her today but not tomorrow? Plus you could be with her from 8am-4pm, then come to the party?
3) you can't get off work and you just found out now, even though you said you were booking it off 2weeks ago?
Aside from the fact that any sane/rational person would've just opted out so as not to inconvenience everyone else, she also assumed no one had anything else scheduled for the following day. Reverse the roles, if I was going to someone else's bday party and the morning of felt horrible, would I ask that person (and everyone else) to reschedule for tomorrow? No, definitely not.
What are your thoughts?
Personally... I think his reason is valid, his girlfriend's grandma is important to him. At the same time, you've planned this for two weeks so it would be a lot of work to reschedule.
My proposal: Have your kid's birthday, if your brother can't host then oh well, but welcome him to come when he can. Even if it's a day late, even if he misses the party, I'm sure your kid will appreciate seeing their uncle.
Life happens. Don't hold it against people.
To me, it's valid. Remember that we're talking about a birthday party for a kid who is in kindergarten or first grade. Does anyone remember their own 5th birthday and the associated celebration of it? I didn't think so.
Also, unless you are one of those parents that plans an extravaganza for such things and spends thousands of dollars on it, it's not that great of an inconvenience for you or your guests to show up the next day for an hour or so and wish the kid a happy birthday and possibly give him/her a gift. (Don't start on me with the pronouns argument, please. It's the kid's birthday we are celebrating here.)
It's also a teaching moment where the kid will learn that life doesn't always go according to plan and we must make due with what life gives us. The kid will probably cry and express frustration at not having the party as planned, but it's good to get used to those things happening at a young age so that in the future your kid won't grow up to be a YouTube "entitled person" and be the focus of bad commentary about how they melt down like a snowflake when things don't go right.
Have cupcakes with your kid on their birthday and a quiet celebration with the knowledge that most of the guests will be over tomorrow for the real party.
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Personally... I think his reason is valid, his girlfriend's grandma is important to him. At the same time, you've planned this for two weeks so it would be a lot of work to reschedule.
My proposal: Have your kid's birthday, if your brother can't host then oh well, but welcome him to come when he can. Even if it's a day late, even if he misses the party, I'm sure your kid will appreciate seeing their uncle.
Life happens. Don't hold it against people.
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Your proposal is a little more complex as now the decorations and supplies (that were brought over there last week) need to be picked up, moved and put back up. While it isn't a big deal, it's an unnecessary 2hr drive there and back, plus setup time. There isn't enough time in the day, so having it tomorrow is unavoidable now, crushing whatever plans people had. My mom frequently works on Sunday, I don't even want to ask her. While my wife and I did had plans for tomorrow, luckily it's wasn't with my wife's parents and we could easily move it to today.
I'm impressed with your outlook on things, don't think I could do it given I'm also undergoing life saving treatment right now. My hat's off to you, the world needs more kind people like you in it. All the best.
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To me, it's valid. Remember that we're talking about a birthday party for a kid who is in kindergarten or first grade. Does anyone remember their own 5th birthday and the associated celebration of it? I didn't think so.
Also, unless you are one of those parents that plans an extravaganza for such things and spends thousands of dollars on it, it's not that great of an inconvenience for you or your guests to show up the next day for an hour or so and wish the kid a happy birthday and possibly give him/her a gift. (Don't start on me with the pronouns argument, please. It's the kid's birthday we are celebrating here.)
It's also a teaching moment where the kid will learn that life doesn't always go according to plan and we must make due with what life gives us. The kid will probably cry and express frustration at not having the party as planned, but it's good to get used to those things happening at a young age so that in the future your kid won't grow up to be a YouTube "entitled person" and be the focus of bad commentary about how they melt down like a snowflake when things don't go right.
Have cupcakes with your kid on their birthday and a quiet celebration with the knowledge that most of the guests will be over tomorrow for the real party.
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I know the kid won't be able to tell the difference, I'm talking more of the inconvenience for everyone else. What's the point of planning something with multiple people 2weeks ahead of time, if we're just going to force everyone to do it on another day so as to accommodate one person? It sounds ridiculous to suggest, because that would mean there is never a choice then? Choice is only an illusion.
To me, the logical answer would be to have the one person that can't make it (for whatever reason), not make it. If "the needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few or the one", then the decision is clear. 5 people inconvenienced, versus 1, and really, how inconvenienced can you be if you've only met the kid less than 10 times, and miss one of the many children's parties.
IMO ( worldwide accepted) common valid reasons to cancel last minute include sudden illness or injury, family emergencies, unexpected work obligations, transportation issues, and inclement weather.
IMPORTANT:
Don’ text them your excuse, CALL THEM.​
jwoegerbauer said:
IMO ( worldwide accepted) common valid reasons to cancel last minute include sudden illness or injury, family emergencies, unexpected work obligations, transportation issues, and inclement weather.
IMPORTANT:
Don’ text them your excuse, CALL THEM.​
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Lol, indeed those are all great reasons for YOU not to make it, which would've been 100% cool. It's not the first time she missed a family event. If it were me, I would've bailed on the party and went to be with my ill relative. If she just wanted to stay in bed, and maybe come down for 15min to have dessert, 100% cool with me too. But to shut down the entire party morning of, inconvenience everyone else by scrambling last minute to rearrange plans, all while presuming everyone is free on the day you choose.......no, that's selfish.

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