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Hi Guys,
Just wondered how many of you have tried giving up smoking and what methods you may have used? (whether succesful or not)
I am currently using an electronic cigarette (contains non of the carinogenics) and have managed to have no real ciggy's in 7 days. - and also have no disire to have one!
I have dropped the cartridges down to the medium nicotine from High and am still doing well! after a few weeks I will move to the Low and no Nicotine cartidges.
this is the most positive try I have had at cesation to date
Cheers
Rosebud
My new girlfriend told me she was not going to kiss me if I didnt stop chewing. seems pretty effective to me!
Hi Mike, Good to know I'm not the only person trying this route!
I am looking at ecigs as a short term solution, but I am too finding myself using it more than I would normally smoke!
I am going to continue reducing my intake and make my way down to the zero nic carts planned for a couple of months time, I figure that in the short term, even tho still not great for me the e-cigs are a better alternative, for a start they contain over 3000 less chemicals
I am already seeing some benefits, I am more awake, I have more colour in my face??!, I have the obvious benefits too, (Dont smell, etc etc...)
the first few days were hard, and I knew I was missing something else other than the nicotine, but I am now used to them
My long term plan is not to smoke at all, Me and the wife are looking at having another expensive habit ( A baby) in the next year or so, and we dont want to be smoking parents, I for one had smoking parents and feel this is probbably a part of why I smoke (and really enjoy it too )
I´m having a hard time with cigarretes also
Wanted to quit but no success till now...
Never heard of e-ciggies, I´ll find out more of them
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I´m having a hard time with cigarretes also
Wanted to quit but no success till now...
Never heard of e-ciggies, I´ll find out more of them
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Orb, there is a lot of info online - google e-cigarette-forum
I found the site has a lot of info.
I know it has only been 1 week, but I would certainly recomend them (I have never gone this long with gum, patches, lozenges etc)
Cheers
Steve
me neither...
I cant leave that thing...
You know when I saw somebody that get a cig starts to smoke even in the tv i feel that i want to smoke too. I can manage to avoid do it in that case.
After the meal... sometimes when I awake at the morning, I smoke.
When its cold...
When i have nothing to do or im just walking on the streets i need a cig.
or when i saw any of my family smoks just fro the meaning of smoke or a nice spoken... i need to smoke.
and the last one... when i need to read a lot of forums here i need a cigarrete
My boss on my job told me one day long ago... i had that vicious thing on my life... but when my first child borns i leave it, it just need to have 2 big balls and hold it tight to void smoke again. thats all you need, guts to leave it.
Im smoking right now BTW
rosebud said:
Orb, there is a lot of info online - google e-cigarette-forum
I found the site has a lot of info.
I know it has only been 1 week, but I would certainly recomend them (I have never gone this long with gum, patches, lozenges etc)
Cheers
Steve
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Thanks mate, in fact already done the search, just trying to find out if it´s cheaper that they send it home or better wait 1 month that I´m travelling to USA...
Cheers,
p.d. Paisa ya no fumes!
well i might not be very experienced with cigs as most of you guys may be......
but still i managed to quit
i was 17 when i started smoking regularly
it went on increasing for a year or so
all it took to stop me is my girlfriend and sis who always shouted at me when i used to smoke
and a few nicotine gums for a month or so
i suggest you guys to go for nicotine gums rather thn e cigs they are a lot safer and they really help
(havent smoked a cig for about 3 months now and even stopped using nicotine gums)
smoked 14 years, and dropped it now... just dropped, no need e-cigs, gums and etc.. just stop smoking it easy. And now i feel myself maany better.
sheennick123456 said:
well i might not be very experienced with cigs as most of you guys may be......
but still i managed to quit
i was 17 when i started smoking regularly
it went on increasing for a year or so
all it took to stop me is my girlfriend and sis who always shouted at me when i used to smoke
and a few nicotine gums for a month or so
i suggest you guys to go for nicotine gums rather thn e cigs they are a lot safer and they really help
(havent smoked a cig for about 3 months now and even stopped using nicotine gums)
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Unfortunately already tried gum, and lozenges, and inhilator, and patches, and cold turkey, as you can tell from the creation of this thread none of these worked for me.
I believe there is no "one size fits all" solution to quitting smoking.
Cheers
Steve
rosebud said:
Unfortunately already tried gum, and lozenges, and inhilator, and patches, and cold turkey, as you can tell from the creation of this thread none of these worked for me.
I believe there is no "one size fits all" solution to quitting smoking.
Cheers
Steve
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mayeb then try to have someone to shout on you everytime you smoke(like sis ,gf,mom,wife)
girls are good at this
they will surely help you quit
it might be irritating but atleast will make you think twice before you smoke
hell yeah!
sad but true
9 years & 3 months ago my wife told me she was pregnant with our first child.
I stubbed out the ciggy I'd just lit, crushed the almost full pack I had, and haven't touched a ciggy since. All you need is sufficient incentive and willpower. eCigs, patches, gum, they can help with the symptoms of withdrawal, but they ALSO drag out the process.
Cold turkey lasts about 2 weeks tops. It's not nice; you'll be irritable and difficult to live with, but it worked great for me.
After about 2 weeks of not smoking, you'll discover some things.
* Smell. You sense of smell is seriously affected by smoking. Once your system is clear of it, you'll discover a world of wonderful aromas.
* Taste. Like smell, your sense of taste is also seriously affected by smoking. You'll find it hard to believe just how good food can taste now it's working properly again.
* Virility. You'll be amazed at some of the other things that smoking actually buggers up.
WARNING: Do not substitute snacking for smoking! There's a damn good reason for my nickname!
FloatingFatMan said:
9 years & 3 months ago my wife told me she was pregnant with our first child.
I stubbed out the ciggy I'd just lit, crushed the almost full pack I had, and haven't touched a ciggy since. All you need is sufficient incentive and willpower. eCigs, patches, gum, they can help with the symptoms of withdrawal, but they ALSO drag out the process.
Cold turkey lasts about 2 weeks tops. It's not nice; you'll be irritable and difficult to live with, but it worked great for me.
After about 2 weeks of not smoking, you'll discover some things.
* Smell. You sense of smell is seriously affected by smoking. Once your system is clear of it, you'll discover a world of wonderful aromas.
* Taste. Like smell, your sense of taste is also seriously affected by smoking. You'll find it hard to believe just how good food can taste now it's working properly again.
* Virility. You'll be amazed at some of the other things that smoking actually buggers up.
WARNING: Do not substitute snacking for smoking! There's a damn good reason for my nickname!
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I quit 5 years ago, I even have constant nightmares about smoking again. The gum, patchs, etc help to smooth over the initial shock of quitting, but you really really really have to want to quit. You have to hate cigarettes and truely not want to smoke them.
I found myself bargaining with myself.. "oh one now and never again" or " one now and then when I'm older I will go back to smoking".. The answer had to be NO NO NO NO NO NO NEVER AGAIN..
Good luck folks, set yourself free
i quit smoking 3 years ago and since then never looked back and felt a need. Its quite easy to quit, but you have to have will power and determination. And mind it when you feel that you want to quit, never run for a last drag, then just quit.
I quit several years ago. Tried first not smoking at all, but two weeks later I was in hell. Then I tried gradually with simple goals like today I'll only do 5, then today I'll just do one, and so on. Until it was like today I won't smoke but I'll have 2 tomorrow. Currently I don't smoke, but I can have 1 cigarette socially from time to time, though I don't really enjoy it that much anymore (because of the smell).
I've just quit cold turkey 59 days ago. The first 4 were critical. After that, all went well. It's just a matter of will. Take it as a test: could you or could you not?
I had been smoking for 25 years, ever since I was 13, and tried everything. And I do mean everything, short of resting on my head, upside down for 30 days. Have tried the gum, the patches, etc. etc.
The solution that I found that works for me, but maybe not for many is Chantix. I was taken a little aback by the price of it. It was $120 dollars for a months prescription. (I used it for 4 months and am completely cigarette free for almost a year now.) And I am a Pharmacy Technician and work at a chain pharmacy!! The problem is, many insurances just does not cover it yet. But when you think about it -- at the minimum 1 pack of cigarettes per day is roughly $3-$4. Multiply that times 30 days = $120. So for me, it was worth it.
Chantix works with certain receptors in your brain. When you smoke, these "pleasure" receptors are active and therefore you get a reward response for smoking. Chantix blocks, fewer then more with continued use, these receptors. So without the receptors being active your body says "whats the point", and doesn't desire nicotine, and smoking. Now, besides the price, there is one pretty big con in the pros and cons of Chantix. You WILL have strange and VERY intense and vivid dreams while sleeping. At times scary, at other times just confusing. This interfered with my sleep a lot, but after about a month they started to be more normal. Granted, this might not have been from the Chantix, it could have been withdrawal from nicotine. I mean, nicotine is a drug.
No course will work for everyone, and you really have to have the desire and willpower to quit smoking. Honestly, I think another reason for my success is that I didn't want to go back to having the dreams again.
Good luck to all that are quitting, and believe me, it is really worth it. I can actually taste food again, smell nature around me, save $120 bux a month, hopefully live longer, breathe better, and have a lot, LOT, more energy.
I quit about a month and a half ago, smoked for 26 years. I'm using that pill chantix, and it seems to be working.. I haven't had a smoke, and I haven't killed any one, and haven't had the urge to kill.. yet. <evil grin>
lindsay11 said:
Smoking? Duh! It's very dangerous to our health. But why do others take it as a habit? They are crazy! It does nothing good to our life.
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well there are many reasons which would make someone start smoking
like being a cool kid in school to using cigs as stress busters
and here in india we(college/school students) generally smoke to supress sleep to study and perform well in exams(there is a large group that does it just for being cool though)
there have been times when i had to study for more than 30 hrs at a stretch
so at those times you really dont have any option rather than to smoke
(studying in india is harsh you REALLY have to work hard to stay in the competition)
Let some steam off and tell us what makes you go crazy.
That buzzing sound speakers make when someone calls you or when you receive a text message.
Cars that jump right in front of you then accelerate slooooooowly when you arrive at 90 km/h
You know what really grinds my gears?
This Lindsay Lohan. Eh? Lindsay Lohan with all those little outfits, jumping around there on stage, half naked with your little outfits. Ya know? You're ou... You're out there jumping around and I'm just sitting here with my beer. So, you know, what am I supposed to do? What do you what do you, what do you want? You know, are we gonna go out? Is that what you're trying to - why why are you leaping around there, throwing those things all up in my, over there in my face? What do you want, Lindsay? Tell me what you want? Well, I'll tell you what you want, you want nothing. You want nothing. All right? Because we all know that no woman anywhere wants to have sex with anyone, and to titillate us with any thoughts otherwise is - is just bogus.
Perhaps not all related to my ears but...
- The old lady in a great sports car driving at 40Km/h
- The corrupt policeman
- The long lines to pay for something on Xmas
- Posts like this (joking)
And so on.....
orb3000 said:
- The old lady in a great sports car driving at 40Km/h
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Or anyone getting the best version of something they will barely use, like old people getting the V6 engine in their awesome Camry and rolling at ridiculously slow speeds or my father getting a N97 when he only phones people, no texts or anything.
Also, people getting what you are saving for without even asking or requiring it. Looking at you and your 32GB iPhone, babe. It's alright, I still love you.
Just about everything, I would list them all but I'm sure there is a limit of characters I would go over.
-Those people that get in groups in a long hallway, blocking your passage through that walk at 1mi. an hour
-That one guy that when your driving is slow, but as soon as you pass him speeds up, gets in front of you, and slows down.
-That stupid gmail animation in my extension on chrome, i can turn it off but that requires clicks
-Clearing my history after months, and then finding out I needed a page and can't find it
-Bots on Twitter
-Answering some same stupid question in the same hour
-Having a cluttered bookmark bar
-That door that squeaks just a little too loud
-That feeling that someone is watching you at all times
-Being told I'm wrong, then they go back and find out I was right
-Having to correct my teacher's grammatical errors
-Accidentally hitting the caps lock instead of shift
-Having to press the 'fn' button to get the F(1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9,10,11, & 12) keys
-Arguments over the stupidest things
-Apple
-Apple's iPad
-Apple thinking the iPad is the best thing since fire
-Using the word Apple
-That stupid pillow fight on Facebook, it's a wall posting of empty promises
-Writing extremely long posts
-Knowing nobody is gonna make it this far
-That shampoo that smells really bad
-Washing a cup to use it but forgetting to do that last rinse and get that taste of meaty soap in your drink
-Having to cha-cha in the cha-cha slide
-Pressing on my G1 screen and hearing a creak (fixed)\
-Having to explain why my phone is better than a stock G1
-Having to talk to Apple fanbois
-Having to listen to fanbois think they had a feature first, when they didn't
-Having to hear about Steve Gods
-Having that one app that won't update ever
-People who write in all caps
-People who don't capitalize
-People who don't make use of paragraphs
-Ppl who typ n txt tlk
-Being asked why they can't type like that
-My mousepad randomly dies and needs to be jump-started by pressing really hard and furious-like for 30 seconds
-Not being able to afford a Nexus
-People who tease with the nexus, like being teased by an expensive hooker
-People who add extra vowels in words (okaaaaaaaaay)
Having to go back and edit things
-Getting 200 text messages out of unlimited a month
-Using more data than talk time
-Did I mention Apple fanbois?
Let's see here...
-When you ask your wife (whom you know is upset) if everything is okay, and she says "yes" as she's furiously slamming the dishes in the washer.
-Wife/girlfriend telling you to stop the car because she is so upset with you not doing what she wants, then getting mad at you when she does go home walking...even though you did what she wanted...
-Women that look pregnant, though they're not (don't dare tell me that has never happened before)
-Really, really having to use the restroom (public one) only to walk into what seems to wreak like a dying skunk. Courtesy flush people...
-People with awesome phones, and only use them to make phone calls.
-iPhone users without a data plan...
-Going through Mcdonald's and ordering a big mac meal and realizing that THEY FORGOT THE FREAKING STRAW!!!!!
-People that actually drive at 10 and 2...they scare me
-Stepping in wet dog poop...at least that's what you hope it was...
-Managers that like to rub their title in employees faces
-backstabbers
-Cheeto cheese that gets stuck inside your nails...
-Car spare donut tire...why can't they just put a full size spare?
-Girl scouts trying to sell you cookies outside a grocery store
-Getting hit in the groin (at the top of my list)
-When you walk outside in the freezimg cold to pick up your mail and you receive nothing but junkmail
-Guys with really girly voices
-Flashing to a ROM update only to realize that it's faulty and buggy and that you were better off with the one you had before...
-Chipotle
When UPS is driving up and down your road every damn day (around noon), and the day you're expecting a package, they're NOWHERE to be found... until 6:59PM when they practically doorbell ditch your package there.
You know what really grinds my gears? People in the 19th century. Why don't they get with the freakin program? It's called an automobile, folks. It's much faster than a horse!
You know what really grinds my gears? Nobody's come up with a new priest and a rabbi joke in like thirty years. Ya know? I mean, okay, ah, umm. Priest and a rabbi go, go onto the supermarket, and, uh, the priest wants to buy a ham. And the rabbi says, "Ah, I can't eat it. It's forbidden." Couldn't eat it. Not allowed, pigs are like superheroes to them. Is it perfect? No, but I, I don't see you coming up with anything.
beaner69 said:
You know what really grinds my gears? People in the 19th century. Why don't they get with the freakin program? It's called an automobile, folks. It's much faster than a horse!
You know what really grinds my gears? Nobody's come up with a new priest and a rabbi joke in like thirty years. Ya know? I mean, okay, ah, umm. Priest and a rabbi go, go onto the supermarket, and, uh, the priest wants to buy a ham. And the rabbi says, "Ah, I can't eat it. It's forbidden." Couldn't eat it. Not allowed, pigs are like superheroes to them. Is it perfect? No, but I, I don't see you coming up with anything.
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Okay...thought I didn't have this one...
noobies with lame jokes.
When you are playing football in a sports hall and someone kicks the ball to the side and you kick it back (like everybody does) and then you get shouted at and kicked in the thigh
That does me head in!!!
So i get shouted out for what everybody does anyway!!!!!!
WANK**S!!!
FLYBOY
"- The long lines to pay for something on Xmas"
well buy them online!
"- The corrupt policeman"
well buy them online!
Rudegar said:
"- The long lines to pay for something on Xmas"
well buy them online!
"- The corrupt policeman"
well buy them online!
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The moderator that closes threads all too easily-
well bribe them online!
*nudge nudge*
*wink wink*
*$5 handshake*
telegraph0000 said:
Let's see here...
-iPhone users without a data plan...
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Some of us just want an iPod Touch with the phone and GPS. In my case I've got Wi-Fi at home, at school, at work and at my girlfriend's house. Canadian carriers charge an arm for data.
Useless classes in cegep (college). I don't need 3 semesters of philosophy, 1 of phys. ed and 4 of litterature, I just want to play with ******* computers!
Rudegar said:
"- The long lines to pay for something on Xmas"
well buy them online!
"- The corrupt policeman"
well buy them online!
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Lol!!
- You took out the pleasure of seing people on a shopping mall
- Can you buy the Mexican police please?!!!!
[rant] If there's one thing that annoys me beyond belief, it's people who bring too many items into the 12 Items or Less Express Lane. IT'S NOT THAT DIFFICULT TO SEE WHEN YOU HAVE MORE THAN 12 ITEMS IN YOUR BASKET. Yet, people insist on taking too many items into the Express Lane, and because the people who do so are usually very stubborn, you often end up waiting the offender to argue with the checker about what constitutes an item, and whether they really have more than 12 items. After they inevitably lose this argument, they then must gather all their things back up and move to a different line, at which point the checker could have already served 2 or 3 customers instead of dealing with an insane person who can't do basic arithmetic.[/rant] Much better
- When my parents don't let me do anything with my friends.
- When I accept something on FACEBOOK and it shows fake pictures that "I uploaded"
- When my butt itches like right now and i can't itch it!
What makes me mad is when people have their music playing super loud in their car, and to make things worse there windows are rolled down also!!!!!!!!
Digging your car out of 2 freaking feet of snow, making the sorroundings (and your car) nice.and clean only to have your.retard neighbor clean their snow off their car and block your drivers side!!!!!! DARN YOU WILSON!!! DARN YOU TO HECK!!!!! Expect a burning paper bag on your front porch!!!!!
Wall Street's total disconnect with Main Street!
hey OT !!
Valentine's day is coming up pretty soon.
I know we've been going through the same thing every year, ranting bout it's all part of the market's plan to boost item sales and chocolates and blah blah. That's one way to look at it.
anyway, any of you got special plans you'd like to share with us ?
or is it just myself that i tend to over-fantasise on these kind of things cuz im still a kid ?
I don't think it's just you.
I'm sure there's plenty of other XDA members that are doing something for V day.
Mind you my guy (and no I'm not a girl) is not into chocolate much so flowers and teddy bears are what I'm aiming, besides he loves flowers say I could buy them more often. Got a nice little place called Black Tomato's booked for us and friends.
Men last year for the V day special they had this amazing Lamb chop souflé and salad (5 course meal) for 35$... WAS amazing. Just check out the pics.
The desert was just as equally enjoyable.
Very much looking forward to diner with friends on Tuesday it's going to be great.
My mom wants to go there for a trip. Possibly New Years or June for sister's birthday. I've read somethings from google on other forums, but the newest is from Sept, and next is Feb of this year. I'm wondering if a tourist can go anywhere besides the French Quarter to sight see. And if so, do we really have to take a cab everywhere? Not safe to walk. That's what I read.
Honestly, I don't want to go. I don't want to babysit 3 drunks while I'm missing my girl. But I'll tell her your answer whether good or bad.
Thanks.
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My mom wants to go there for a trip. Possibly New Years or June for sister's birthday. I've read somethings from google on other forums, but the newest is from Sept, and next is Feb of this year. I'm wondering if a tourist can go anywhere besides the French Quarter to sight see. And if so, do we really have to take a cab everywhere? Not safe to walk. That's what I read.
Honestly, I don't want to go. I don't want to babysit 3 drunks while I'm missing my girl. But I'll tell her your answer whether good or bad.
Thanks.
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why ever leave the french quarters its amazing! every time i go i either walk or take a cab and ive never had a problem. once i park my car i never see it again till i leave to head back north. i know this is not much help sry
boborone said:
My mom wants to go there for a trip. Possibly New Years or June for sister's birthday. I've read somethings from google on other forums, but the newest is from Sept, and next is Feb of this year. I'm wondering if a tourist can go anywhere besides the French Quarter to sight see. And if so, do we really have to take a cab everywhere? Not safe to walk. That's what I read.
Honestly, I don't want to go. I don't want to babysit 3 drunks while I'm missing my girl. But I'll tell her your answer whether good or bad.
Thanks.
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There is a lot to do. But I can only tell you what NOT to do. LOL
If you go to Pat O'Brien's don't drink the hurricanes like they are coolaid. They taste like it. But they are not!!! You will regret it.
Don't go to the bar The Dungeon. You might see things you can't unsee. Like midgets dressed in leather crawling into a hole in the wall to another room.
Did I mention NOT to drink the Hurricane's at Pat O's like they were coolaid?
You can always do the swamp things. Also there are a lot of historical places in NO. I hear. All I found was Bourbon Street when I was there. I was always within crawling distance of the hotel. Stayed at a nice historical place called Hotel St. Marie just a half block off of Bourbon St.
http://www.hotelstmarie.com/
EDIT: I never took my car out of the Hotel garage. It is safe in the quarter to walk. Make sure you know the boundaries though. It turns to crap REAL quick if you venture outside the boundaries. That is in the immediate area of the quarter and other parts of NO are nice and safe.
Huh, well thanks guys. I'll let her. If I go, I want to see some good bands, and things I like 85gallon was talking about. Idk about them. She found a place a block away the French Quarter on airbnb.com owned by a couple gay dudes renting their apartment out for 160 a night. 3/2 with upstairs balcony. Seems pretty cool.
5yr old's bday is planned 2weeks ahead of time, then morning of, my brother who asked to host, asked to cancel and reschedule for the following day.
Reasons given, my brother's fiancé has her mom's death anniversary, and her grandmother is in the ICU with skin cancer, and she can't get it off work.
1) If this day bothered you so much, wouldn't you have recognized the date when we planned it? Or at least just not the morning of?
2) for skin cancer to put you in the ICU, that means you've had it for a while, so it's no shock. So go be with your grandma, absolutely, but why does it matter if you're with her today but not tomorrow? Plus you could be with her from 8am-4pm, then come to the party?
3) you can't get off work and you just found out now, even though you said you were booking it off 2weeks ago?
Aside from the fact that any sane/rational person would've just opted out so as not to inconvenience everyone else, she also assumed no one had anything else scheduled for the following day. Reverse the roles, if I was going to someone else's bday party and the morning of felt horrible, would I ask that person (and everyone else) to reschedule for tomorrow? No, definitely not.
What are your thoughts?
Personally... I think his reason is valid, his girlfriend's grandma is important to him. At the same time, you've planned this for two weeks so it would be a lot of work to reschedule.
My proposal: Have your kid's birthday, if your brother can't host then oh well, but welcome him to come when he can. Even if it's a day late, even if he misses the party, I'm sure your kid will appreciate seeing their uncle.
Life happens. Don't hold it against people.
To me, it's valid. Remember that we're talking about a birthday party for a kid who is in kindergarten or first grade. Does anyone remember their own 5th birthday and the associated celebration of it? I didn't think so.
Also, unless you are one of those parents that plans an extravaganza for such things and spends thousands of dollars on it, it's not that great of an inconvenience for you or your guests to show up the next day for an hour or so and wish the kid a happy birthday and possibly give him/her a gift. (Don't start on me with the pronouns argument, please. It's the kid's birthday we are celebrating here.)
It's also a teaching moment where the kid will learn that life doesn't always go according to plan and we must make due with what life gives us. The kid will probably cry and express frustration at not having the party as planned, but it's good to get used to those things happening at a young age so that in the future your kid won't grow up to be a YouTube "entitled person" and be the focus of bad commentary about how they melt down like a snowflake when things don't go right.
Have cupcakes with your kid on their birthday and a quiet celebration with the knowledge that most of the guests will be over tomorrow for the real party.
V0latyle said:
Personally... I think his reason is valid, his girlfriend's grandma is important to him. At the same time, you've planned this for two weeks so it would be a lot of work to reschedule.
My proposal: Have your kid's birthday, if your brother can't host then oh well, but welcome him to come when he can. Even if it's a day late, even if he misses the party, I'm sure your kid will appreciate seeing their uncle.
Life happens. Don't hold it against people.
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Your proposal is a little more complex as now the decorations and supplies (that were brought over there last week) need to be picked up, moved and put back up. While it isn't a big deal, it's an unnecessary 2hr drive there and back, plus setup time. There isn't enough time in the day, so having it tomorrow is unavoidable now, crushing whatever plans people had. My mom frequently works on Sunday, I don't even want to ask her. While my wife and I did had plans for tomorrow, luckily it's wasn't with my wife's parents and we could easily move it to today.
I'm impressed with your outlook on things, don't think I could do it given I'm also undergoing life saving treatment right now. My hat's off to you, the world needs more kind people like you in it. All the best.
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To me, it's valid. Remember that we're talking about a birthday party for a kid who is in kindergarten or first grade. Does anyone remember their own 5th birthday and the associated celebration of it? I didn't think so.
Also, unless you are one of those parents that plans an extravaganza for such things and spends thousands of dollars on it, it's not that great of an inconvenience for you or your guests to show up the next day for an hour or so and wish the kid a happy birthday and possibly give him/her a gift. (Don't start on me with the pronouns argument, please. It's the kid's birthday we are celebrating here.)
It's also a teaching moment where the kid will learn that life doesn't always go according to plan and we must make due with what life gives us. The kid will probably cry and express frustration at not having the party as planned, but it's good to get used to those things happening at a young age so that in the future your kid won't grow up to be a YouTube "entitled person" and be the focus of bad commentary about how they melt down like a snowflake when things don't go right.
Have cupcakes with your kid on their birthday and a quiet celebration with the knowledge that most of the guests will be over tomorrow for the real party.
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I know the kid won't be able to tell the difference, I'm talking more of the inconvenience for everyone else. What's the point of planning something with multiple people 2weeks ahead of time, if we're just going to force everyone to do it on another day so as to accommodate one person? It sounds ridiculous to suggest, because that would mean there is never a choice then? Choice is only an illusion.
To me, the logical answer would be to have the one person that can't make it (for whatever reason), not make it. If "the needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few or the one", then the decision is clear. 5 people inconvenienced, versus 1, and really, how inconvenienced can you be if you've only met the kid less than 10 times, and miss one of the many children's parties.
IMO ( worldwide accepted) common valid reasons to cancel last minute include sudden illness or injury, family emergencies, unexpected work obligations, transportation issues, and inclement weather.
IMPORTANT:
Don’ text them your excuse, CALL THEM.
jwoegerbauer said:
IMO ( worldwide accepted) common valid reasons to cancel last minute include sudden illness or injury, family emergencies, unexpected work obligations, transportation issues, and inclement weather.
IMPORTANT:
Don’ text them your excuse, CALL THEM.
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Lol, indeed those are all great reasons for YOU not to make it, which would've been 100% cool. It's not the first time she missed a family event. If it were me, I would've bailed on the party and went to be with my ill relative. If she just wanted to stay in bed, and maybe come down for 15min to have dessert, 100% cool with me too. But to shut down the entire party morning of, inconvenience everyone else by scrambling last minute to rearrange plans, all while presuming everyone is free on the day you choose.......no, that's selfish.