How do I use this program to catch my boyfriend sneaking text messages? In his account, you can see what time he sent and received them, but it will not show what the message said or anything because he deletes them. He is not the greatest boyfriend in the world, but I can't seem to leave him. I just have to prove that he is cheating behind my back in order to be strong enough to leave him.
Damn... Can't you just ask him? You have to sneak around too? Besides if you feel he's not totally honest, that means you dont trust him. Tough call
Cheers.
crazygirliegirl said:
How do I use this program to catch my boyfriend sneaking text messages? In his account, you can see what time he sent and received them, but it will not show what the message said or anything because he deletes them. He is not the greatest boyfriend in the world, but I can't seem to leave him. I just have to prove that he is cheating behind my back in order to be strong enough to leave him.
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Stop messing around and dump the loser.
Interesting question. Bottom line is if you don't trust your boyfriend software isn't going to help.
If you DID read something he received which sounded flirty, it would not prove anything, it could be in fun or you just may not understand the context. If you read something he sent, the same applies.
So if you did read something, it would probably just leave you with more questions. Finally, people do cheat without ever exchanging phone numbers!
If you don't trust him, dump him and find someone you do trust.
Ok, this maybe belongs more to the off-topic
Cheers,
vlodeck.
crazygirliegirl said:
How do I use this program to catch my boyfriend sneaking text messages? In his account, you can see what time he sent and received them, but it will not show what the message said or anything because he deletes them. He is not the greatest boyfriend in the world, but I can't seem to leave him. I just have to prove that he is cheating behind my back in order to be strong enough to leave him.
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contact "Cheaters"
I think she's one of those girlies that are "wowed" by the boyfriend
Girly... honey... have you checked out the neighbour? Or that Starbucks barista? Well, here's a free tip for you: Both of them can f*&k you just as well if not better than your current manwhore.
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does anyone know of any application that monitors text messages.. what im trying to do is find a program that will foward any message that is sent or recieved on my girlfriends phone.. she has a tilt as do i.. so im wondering if anyone has this particular type of software. i suspect something going on which is neither here nor there but id like to have a 1-2 week log of her texts to confront her with... so im basically trying to get a copy of every text that goes out or comes in. thanks guys
Yea, I will start forwarding them all to you
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Yea, I will start forwarding them all to you
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Cold... Very cold
heh...lol i could of used something like that for my girlfriend..i mean X girlfriend
visual studio 6 has great ce tools maybe you could write one for us! but really lol i dont think theres anything out there to do this. if i find something ill tell you.
If you don't trust your gf enough that you need to do this, then you should probably just break up. If you do somehow get a program for this (and it's highly doubtful) and confront her with it I think she'll have just as much to be angry about as you. Pretty big invasion of privacy whether or not she's guilty of what you suspect.
I have to agree with others that if you have to resort to spying rather than trust and talking to each other then you have bigger problems to deal with.
But if you must here are three that I know of. I used to see another program but I can't find it now.
http://www.flexispy.com/spyphone-windows-mobile.htm
http://www.mobile-spy.com/
http://microsoft.handango.com/Platf...19509§ionId=0&catalog=1&&authorId=1637871
Its NOT software you want its a hardware device called "Chastity-Belt" not quite sure if its Windows Mobile 6 compatible but it may do the trick.
Good Luck
uhhh...wtf ^
look into an experimental program being developed(in its beta stages) called sprite archie, google it, its not hard to find, i used it for similar purposes and it worked great. It will forward call logs, and sms, to an email account!
oh here ya go: http://www.spritesoftware.com/store/index.php?main_page=product_info&products_id=201 , this will be exactly what your looking for, and its pretty stealth, providing you delete the shortcuts in the program folder!
Let me tell you from experience. If you go down this path.. it will never stop. You will NEVER be satisfied. If you log her texts and see that she's not doing anything.. you'll just take it even further and further.
Just break up with her. If she asks why, tell her the truth. You just don't feel you can trust her. This is what I did in my past relationship of nearly 6 years and I am glad it's over.
lol i love how it turned into a relationship advising post
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lol i love how it turned into a relationship advising post
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Yeah, I just wish people would stick to the request, and leave the other bs out! This is Xda developers, not Xda Dr Phil!
Burrrnnn!!! agree with ditching the loose change
etnies said:
heh...lol i could of used something like that for my girlfriend..i mean X girlfriend
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Something like this would be cool. I would donate if that was made on this forum..
There’s this guy at work and nearly every time he e-mails me, he CC’s my supervisor.
It’s really annoying because that leads to my supervisor getting involved in things that really are none of his concern.
My supervisor is already a micromanager and very reactionary (always assumes that if he's being asked about something that someone's not doing their job)
Also the guy who's doing this is one of those people who loves to get involved in other people's projects and pretend to be a part of them, so that leads to people going to him for status updates instead of me.
Any advice on getting him to stop in a diplomatic way without it pissing them off or putting him in a position to want to "step it up" and get back at me?
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There’s this guy at work and nearly every time he e-mails me, he CC’s my supervisor.
It’s really annoying because that leads to my supervisor getting involved in things that really are none of his concern.
My supervisor is already a micromanager and very reactionary (always assumes that if he's being asked about something that someone's not doing their job)
Also the guy who's doing this is one of those people who loves to get involved in other people's projects and pretend to be a part of them, so that leads to people going to him for status updates instead of me.
Any advice on getting him to stop in a diplomatic way without it pissing them off or putting him in a position to want to "step it up" and get back at me?
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Send him an e-mail that'll be very embarassing to CC all over the place.
Actually, these kind of people are quite dangerous, because they like to keep their backs covered. So be careful.
One thing I'd like to find out is, ultimately, what is the gripe? Is the CC annoying you, or the CC annoying your boss and then your boss annoys you? Finding out the root cause of a problem instead of treating the symptoms will be way better.
FIght him like a man, next to the water cooler
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FIght him like a man, next to the water cooler
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Psh... real men fight with keyboards. May the man with the heaviest (1982-circa clickety keyboard) wins!
Spill coffee in his workstation so his computer dies a slow smoking death. Then take everything in his cube and freeze it in jello. Then put pictures of a small penis in the womens restrooms with his name all over it.
pm me his and your boss email, ill email him gayporn and cc your boss
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Spill coffee in his workstation so his computer dies a slow smoking death. Then take everything in his cube and freeze it in jello. Then put pictures of a small penis in the womens restrooms with his name all over it.
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Y'know... I'd pay good money (ok, at least a buck or two) to see that.
Seriously, the dude's a loser and a trouble maker (as has been said up-thread). My advice would be to either completely cut him out of the process (death by starvation) or go further up the chain of command with materials and documentation and complain (death from above). Remember, there comes a point where the job isn't worth the hassle and frustration.
I had similar problem.
My boss is female. My colleague is male and trying to make his mark. I have one day every week when I work from a different office. He waits till I'm not around to ***** about me with her. I am more senior and better at the job. Even though she trusts me implicitly, it still annoys me that the guy is behaving like a little prick. He asks to have days off in the most busy times and only asks her when I'm not around; as if I would say no! I can cope with the work on my own and nobody asks him for anything if I'm around.
When he's done the *****ing thing 3 times I've blown my top with the two of them, collected some reports on all the works I've done and threatened to leave. They would/could not get anyone cheaper and with the same level of knowledge and control. The emails stopped and now, as long as he does not mess the work too much, I cannot care less what he does. I do my work and **** a snoot at the rest.
Cheers!
Unplug all the fans but a couple from his PC so it dies a slow painful death
He is probably a sociopath. These people are all around us. They're completely functional and often successful. They're not psychopaths, they won't start killing people. But they have no regard for the feelings and troubles of others. They will lie, cheat, manipulate their way to the top by any means necessary. Thats who you're probably dealing with. (There was this GREAT article by a big name psychiatrist on workspace sociopaths on reddit a while back but I can't find it, sorry)
Now, I've learned through experience that these people exploit the **** out of "diplomacy". They take advantage of the fact that you don't want to make a big thing out of this, they KNOW you wan't to keep a low profile and they exploit that weakness to bully you. Dealing with bullies is easy. Just walk up to him and tell him to stop. Flat out, plain and simple stop. Let him know crystal clear that you know what he's doing and you want him to stop. No diplomacy.
You could also fight fire with fire.
This will have repercussions ofcourse. It might mean going into a stupid office politics "war" with the guy. So think about it and choose whats right for your particular situation. But keep in mind that these abuses tend to increase and it will get to a point that it will make your worklife miserable. Its best to deal with it early and make the ****er know that it will cost him to **** with you and he better go find someone else.
OR I could be wrong and the guy is just advocating for transparency in the company (Doubt it. He only CCs your boss, not others.)
I say find him after work and beat his ass. Then pretend nothing happened when you are at work.
Definitely an option. But be very careful cause its really ****ing illegal >_>
With personal experience the proper way to handle hostile problems is to report it to management and human resources. But keep in mind that you also have to work with these people to so cool down before you say something that makes you look like the ass.
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My boss always CC's his goddamn boss when he emails me. Grinds my gears
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natious said:
pm me his and your boss email, ill email him gayporn and cc your boss
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one and only real(and legal) solution , invite to gay clubs too just to "hang out"
also , do it while pretending to be a colleague sending from home address , keep doing till he stops
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pm me his and your boss email, ill email him gayporn and cc your boss
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This made my weekend.
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I know these types of people all too well. Having dealt with some myself. these people are not top be trusted, they can't wait to pull the rug right under your feet. They want to get ahead by making you look bad. My advice to you is to speak with him directly and ask him why he is doing it and tell him it makes you feel uncomfortable. As he can't be trusted he may have moved to bcc your boss instead, so you should voiced your concern with your boss as well. You must cover your ass at all times with this guy. So document anything important concerning him and always answer his emails as if your boss may be in bcc and don't take any **** attempt from him to make you look bad especially via email and answer him to set the record straight, r this is party of documenting.
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A dark alley. A late night event. A mindless ass-kicking.
It could be fun.
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A dark alley. A late night event.
It could be fun.
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See? Thats what happens when a passive agressive sociopath makes the big mistake of ****ing with a psychopath.
Sorry about putting this here, seeing as its not the most cheerful subject and all.
A close friend passed away recently and I wanted to get something to put on his grave, I dont know if you've seen them but you can get these large plastic frames that have real flowers on them arranged to make text like "Brother".
I wanted something like that but a bit more permanent and I want to be able to put custom text there.
Are any of you aware of any such service? Time doesnt really matter but as always I havent got tons of money to spend so I dont really know where to look first.
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Sorry about putting this here, seeing as its not the most cheerful subject and all.
A close friend passed away recently and I wanted to get something to put on his grave, I dont know if you've seen them but you can get these large plastic frames that have real flowers on them arranged to make text like "Brother".
I wanted something like that but a bit more permanent and I want to be able to put custom text there.
Are any of you aware of any such service? Time doesnt really matter but as always I havent got tons of money to spend so I dont really know where to look first.
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Talk to the funeral parlour. They should know where to arrange a stone engraving service of sorts.
Other than that, I don't know
And I'm sorry for your loss.
Sorry to hear about your friend. Spike Milligan had "I told you i was ill" as his epitaph. Personally, i'd prefer something with humour rather than something somber too, but most churches have strict rules about this so you'd have to check to see what is or isn't deemed acceptable where you are.
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Sorry to hear about your friend. Spike Milligan had "I told you i was ill" as his epitaph. Personally, i'd prefer something with humour rather than something somber too, but most churches have strict rules about this so you'd have to check to see what is or isn't deemed acceptable where you are.
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Infact due to church rules, he had to have "Dúirt mé leat go raibh mé breoite" which is the Irish for "I told you I was ill"
My sister met Spike once as a young relative of his went to our school, he was a fun guy.
Some rules are pathetic such as not allowing Daddy or Mummy.
You can get realistic small flowers which can make up the flower arrangements such as MUM.
Another thought would be if you have a group photo, or the pair of you together, get it printed on metal/acrylic/perspex so that it can be placed with the grave and cope with the weather, just make sure you get assurances from the printer that their process is suitable for outdoor display and resistant to fading.
So this has absolutely nothing to do with Android or anything...
So me and my wife have been together since freshman year in high school we are now 27.. have a 7 year old and a 1 month old. I love her.. and would never cheat on her..
A week or so ago I got a message from a cute chick on facebook saying she wanted to be my friend. I asked her why she said because she thought i looked cute in my pictures. I told her she wasn't so bad looking and we had a kind of flirty conversation. I did however tell her about my wife and kids and we talked about things like where we live and what not.. noting more than a PG conversation..
IT NEVER WENT ANY FARTHER THAN THIS CONVERSATION AND ONLY ONCE...
So i left my FB page up and my wife snooped and read my messages.. she is now crying..
I do feel bad that she got her feelings hurt, but i don't really feel like i did anything wrong..
Let me know what you guys think about my mess i made... just curious about outside opinions..
Well, just tell her it was a mistake.
You were stupid and just liked the attention. It wasn't like you intended to cheat on her.
Think about how you would feel if you seen her doing that to you.
Nothing will gain you're trust back from her but time...
The above is very good advice.
This seems like a weird place to ask such a question, but what the hell, I'll give it a shot too.
Tell her you love her very much and that you would never, ever cheat on her. You have to be absolutely sincere about this and make yourself believe it even if you actually did think about cheating. Any doubt that you show she will pick up on now.
PS: I've never understood why everyone loves Facebook. I hate that ****.
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Well, just tell her it was a mistake.
You were stupid and just liked the attention. It wasn't like you intended to cheat on her.
Think about how you would feel if you seen her doing that to you.
Nothing will gain you're trust back from her but time...
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Thanks. Good advice
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The above is very good advice.
This seems like a weird place to ask such a question, but what the hell, I'll give it a shot too.
Tell her you love her very much and that you would never, ever cheat on her. You have to be absolutely sincere about this and make yourself believe it even if you actually did think about cheating. Any doubt that you show she will pick up on now.
PS: Facebook sucks.
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I am sincere. I had no intentions of cheating..
LOL and i know but I am here alot you guys are like family and it seemed like a good place to get non objective view..
Its reasons like that me and my wife share a FB account. Full freaking transparency! Just tell her you got caught up for a minute because we all like to be flattered once in a while. I'm sure she has flirted at some point behind your back.
In times of great personal conflict and inner-turmoil with the ones I love, I also think of turning to an cell-phone internet message board of complete strangers for advice.
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Its reasons like that me and my wife share a FB account. Full freaking transparency! Just tell her you got caught up for a minute because we all like to be flattered once in a while. I'm sure she has flirted at some point behind your back.
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+1 to this. My wife and I share one too and have the privacy set high. We orignally got it to "spy" on people but have since put some stuff on there. Agree also with the "everyone wants to feel special" once in awhile aspect too. I can garauntee that if you try hard enough, you can find some instance that she has flirted too, but why would you want to do that b/c you'll just end up over analyzing everything. Just say you are sorry.
Side story:
A long time ago (15+) before FB, G+ ot twitter, I used to work nights in college. I got home late one night and my girlfriend at the time was asleep. The phone rang and I used to have this habit of screwing with tele-marketers to hopefully piss them off enough to drop my number.
This time it was just a wrong number, but there was a shy, what sounded like a cute voice on the other line that apologized for calling the wrong number. Before she got off the phone, I asked her what she was wearing and messed with her a little bit, then hung up. Told my girlfriend in the morning about it and we laughed (full disclosure-sorry I'm honest like that).
Anyways this girl called back the next night too and this time my girlfriend was up and we totally messed with this girls head and got her to agree to meet for a 3-way (only problem was she didn't know my GF was on the phone so it was going to be with her and her boyfriend-I don't do two swords if you know what I mean).
Long story short, we completely messed with this girl and my phone company at the time had this feature that if right after you got an annoying call you could hit *57 and if you did it to the same number 3 times in one month, it got their phone shut off for a month for harassing.
If you can't or won't follow though woth something, don't chat with someone you don't know. For all you know, it could have been me on the other side of the Facebook message.
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Thanks. Good advice
I am sincere. I had no intentions of cheating..
LOL and i know but I am here alot you guys are like family and it seemed like a good place to get non objective view..
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Yeah man, what you SHOULD do now, dont know if youre willing to do so, but you should just give her your facebook password. If you know youre not going to do anything like that again, she should be able to have it.
It will get a LOADDD off her shoulders knowing she doesnt have to sneak up on you, but rather look for herself at any time.
Hope everything goes well for you man. Just give it time.
FACEBOOK IS FULL OF PEOPLE YOU USED TO KNOW AND DONT WANT TO TALK TO, TWITTER IS FULL OF PEOPLE YOU DONT KNOW AND WOULD LIKE TO TALK TO..IMO,Hope everything works out,
hope everything is working out.
Im just a couple yrs older than you and have have been married about the same time, have 1 child also; so I can understand how this would be a really emotional situation for her and then you.
others gave good advice. be honest w her. tell her it was a mistake. let her look through all your other FB, email, ect... messages to prove to her that this was a one time semi-inocent situation.
even though you did nothing wrong, and maybe you did not, but put yourself in her situation. if you found that on her FB, you would probably be pretty pissed too (at least I would be).
so let her look at everything, give her your passwords, what ever you need to show her that this was a one time incident, that it was nothing more then casual chatting, but you understand that she is upset and you see how it looks now, you would be too in her situation, and that you wont do it again.
good luck
Online cheating is cheating.
I have a different opinion.
I think you should have never added her and never had any type of conversation with her. There is no reason a married man with children should be adding random females to his Facebook.
Secondly, you said you had no intention of cheating, but what about online cheating? What if she had asked you to get on Skype so she could give you a little show. Are you telling me you wouldn't go and watch and maybe join on Skype yourself?
That is my opinion. We live in a new world, and online relationships are a form of cheating in my opinion. You wouldn't sit with this girl at a coffee shop and chit chat, you shouldn't online either.
That's why I'm getting married till I'm like late 20's/early 30's
Hope it works out mate!
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So this has absolutely nothing to do with Android or anything...
So me and my wife have been together since freshman year in high school we are now 27.. have a 7 year old and a 1 month old. I love her.. and would never cheat on her..
A week or so ago I got a message from a cute chick on facebook saying she wanted to be my friend. I asked her why she said because she thought i looked cute in my pictures. I told her she wasn't so bad looking and we had a kind of flirty conversation. I did however tell her about my wife and kids and we talked about things like where we live and what not.. noting more than a PG conversation..
IT NEVER WENT ANY FARTHER THAN THIS CONVERSATION AND ONLY ONCE...
So i left my FB page up and my wife snooped and read my messages.. she is now crying..
I do feel bad that she got her feelings hurt, but i don't really feel like i did anything wrong..
Let me know what you guys think about my mess i made... just curious about outside opinions..
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Tell her you love her AND that you were A COMPETE DUMBASS for having a meaningless, stupid convo. Then be good and don't do this AGAIN!
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One day I was at my girlfriend's house, her hot sister came to me and asked if I would like to sleep with her. I was shocked, and, as fast as I could, ran out of the house to my car. To my surprise my girlfriend was outside leaning against the car. She then said, "I knew I could trust you! ", then gave me a hug and told me she loved me.
Moral of the story?
Always keep your condoms in your car.
Wow, what a mess you've gotten yourself into.
If you haven't already, I think you need to first know and understand why your wife is upset.
After years of marriage, she certainly knows you as a person. If you're the type of person who doesn't cheat, she probably knows it. So it's not really a matter of "cheating".
It's a matter of loyalty and sense of security.
It's inevitable that people change over time. They're older, wiser, have different perspectives, etc. But the one thing that doesn't (ie, shouldn't) change is your commitment to your spouse.
when people first started dating, they think they're the perfect match for each other. After years of marriage you might:
-pack on some extra weight
-lose some hair
-no longer buy flowers for your wife
-no longer put up the toilet seat
-have different political views
-discover both of you have different tastes in music
-etc
But, damn it, she knows that at least she can confidently say "After all this time, my husband still loves me."
And if she has a bad day at work or if she just needs a hug, you're there for her. No matter what, you're suppose to have her back. You're her pillar to lean on. She might not need your support all the time, but she knows that if she does, you're there all the time, rock solid.
That "pillar" is what you've compromised here.
So when trying to make amends, don't focus on the FB chat. That's not the real issue at hand. Do what you need to do to let her know that you're still there for her.
TO YOUR WIFE :
plz forgive him, it's nothing, he's a loving husband if he's asking such a small thing here, that means he loves you alot.
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Me and my GF had a three day fight cause I never changed my Facebook profile from "single" to "in a relationship", and she thinks she had it bad. Of cpurse her drama queen sister conviced her it was so i can cheat. I only log in once or twice a month and never thought to change it.
OP you guys should just delete all your Facebook profiles, its more trouble than it's worth, like the situation you got into.
Facebook is nothing but a gathering for information and statistics anyway.
Simply don't post stuff at all
I figured why not...let me run something by some strangers / outsiders and see what you think of this. I'll make it brief.
This girl I dated almost a year ago (I've moved on already but it was her who wanted to end the relationship) every couple of months will send me a text message or two trying to elicit a response from me. It's usually a non-threatening vague message that I typically ignore. We're both in our mid to late 20s.
Well now she sent another message to me a few days ago and quite frankly the only part of me that feels bad is I'm not the type of person to just flat out ignore or blow someone off but at the same time I really don't see what it'll accomplish talking to said person again.
How would you handle it?
Still keep ignoring?
Respond back in a mean fashion or in a way to stop her from ever texting you again?
Just be civil and reply back?
Other?
Just curious...here was the gist of the message...I've continued to maintain radio silence basically...
ex's message said:
Thought about you today and hope you are doing well [gives short description of some prior event spawning her to think of me]. Wish I could tell you how sorry I am about how immature I was last year but it doesn't matter so much I guess...I wanted to let you know I realize that and I do wish we had a friendship.
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Just write to her "Cool Story, Sis" and never reply to her again. Or just give simple answers like "that's cool" or "good for you". Also she might be drunk texting u.
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Attention seeking. Unless you feel some burning need to get involved with her again, simply tell her to stop bothering you.
The best possible way to handle this is to give her my number.
Install a call/message blocking app so you never even know when you get another text from her and there's no dilemma.
I agree with Dirk - she's attention seeking, and if that is the case then she's more trouble than she's worth.
There's only one way to handle this....
Get blind drunk.
Acquire machete...
Drive to her house....
Strip down to your underwear...
Play this song REALLY loudly......
Proceed to hack the crap out of her garden.....
Await inevitable scream from window/being dragged away by police.....
Problem solved....